Of all the stupidest things I read this week, none was more stupid than the Ekiti State Police Command standing behind their dismissal of a pregnant policewoman because according to Mr. Babatunde Mobayo, the command’s commissioner,
“Section 126 of the regulation (states) that married woman police (sic) who is pregnant may be granted maternity leave, while Section 127 (states that) unmarried woman police (sic) who becomes pregnant shall be discharged from the Force" & needs IGP's approval to be enlisted
So if Sis had been married, she would not have been punished. And if the man who got her pregnant had been a police officer one is to assume he wouldn’t have lost his job. It wouldn’t have mattered then whether he was married or not.
It is frustrating that in this 21st century, our women are still being treated like second class citizens with single women at the bottom of the ladder. In some cities, young women can’t rent because foolish landlords refuse to rent to unmarried women.
Some hotels won’t let them in because no man. What’s next? Single women can’t drive? Shop? Eat? Women need to show proof of marriage to teach? Enter cabs? Travel? The ridiculousness knows no end. Na who do us this thing?
I don’t know what this woman’s background is but I know how tough it is in Naija to get a job. She lands one and then she’s losing it because she’s an unmarried, adult woman carrying the baby in her womb with her full chest.
Biko, someone make it make sense because I am struggling and my head is pounding like mad. Now, this woman is going to spend the time she should have been enjoying the pregnancy fretting over her loss of income.
The same people responsible for her predicament are the same people who will demonize her for trying to make money any way she can because it is highly unlikely, in our economy, that she will get another job anytime soon.
Say she has no family who can help her out, say she has no friends who can help out, say she has no savings, what is she meant to do with a baby on the way? Gather pebbles and pray over them until they turn to bundles of money? Walk in traffic with a cup out begging for alms?
Wait for money to fall like manna from heaven? What manner of outdated thinking is this that believes that this section 127 is law that should be taken seriously and followed in this day and age?
& the IGP who needs to give (his?) approval, why didn’t he give it before this mess happened? And why, oh, why is this still even a thing?
Laws are man-made. They are bound by time and place. They are not unchangeable. Certainly when a law is not moral, when it discriminates, when it is as foolish as this one is, we should not be afraid to ignore it and demand for it to be revoked.
It frightens me to think of how many more anti-women laws are still on the books in Nigeria. Maybe this is the time to comb through our laws and make sure that oppressive ones are expunged.
It does not make any kind of sense that in the 21st century a woman in Nigeria cannot keep her job because she is not married. How is a husband going to make Police Constable Omolola a better policewoman, pregnant or not? Na husband follow am go training?
Will they start carrying out virginity tests too so that women daring to have sex outside of marriage do not get to stain the sanctity of the force? Because you know, to get pregnant out of wedlock, the officer would have to have been having sex out of it too.
Shame on all the officers who signed Olajide Omolola’s dismissal, who uphold her dismissal, who defend her dismissal and those who remain silent in the face of this unfairness. Sometimes Naija too dey shame person.
Reasonable people make the mistake of thinking that everyone on Twitter is reasonable. That's why they fall into the trap of arguing with people, wondering why they can't see sense. Do you walk into a market and start /sustain conversations with everyone?
When a stranger walks up to your car window and starts telling you your choice of music is crap, do you stand in traffic arguing with that person?
When your child's mate comes to your front door and starts shouting madly that you know nothing at all about something you're an expert in , do you try to reason with them?
A Manual for White Allies /Potential Allies of Black People in America
1.Understand that allyship is intentional. You are not an ally because your partner is black, your best friend is black, your dog is black;
you like Mexican food,you watch foreign movies,you've been to South Africa;you adopted a black kid,you're a liberal, your kid's best friend is black. You're an ally because you've chosen to take a side against injustice,& you make that choice every single day,in deed and in words
2. Learn to listen with humility and compassion. Do not interrupt to say"I know how you feel," or "I was once discriminated against" or "I was picked on at school for having red/thin/whatever hair."
I’ll never forget Buchi Emecheta schooling us ( a bunch of googly- eyed Caine Prize shortlisted writers) in 2004 (?) about rethinking writing as hobby vs career
A journalist had asked if we hoped to ever make money from writing and we all said oh no and it didn’t matter if we didn’t because we all loved writing so much and were doing it for the love and not for money bladderdash.
A journalist had asked if we hoped to ever make money from writing and we all said oh no and it didn’t matter if we didn’t because we all loved writing so much and were doing it for the love and not for money bladderdash.
So my beloved father-in-love died 2 months ago. He suspected he wouldn't see the end of this year (but not how close death was ) and wanted to say goodbye to the world the way he always wanted to.
Being Catholic, he had his final rites (wanted to do it while he was conscious) and had a champagne reception afterwards with the gourmet version of all his favorite foods catered by a chic restaurant and lots of champagne
He had all but one of his 3 children , all but 4 grandkids (we followed via Skype) and there was laughter (a lot of it) . Obviously, there were tears too.He chose the reading for his funeral,