#TEAMMOLLY, I’ve been transparent with you from the beginning. I’m the only child of parents who divorced when I was 6. My father abandoned me and never had a relationship with Molly or her brothers. Yet, he and his wife are attempting to center themselves in this tragedy.
My mom loved Molly when she was younger, but became lost to mental illness/addiction 5 years ago. She was homeless for years. My mom reached out to Jon today - days after we lost our precious girl - and asked him to send her money. She tried to manipulate him during his grief.
My younger half-sister, who was abused from an early age, is addicted to meth, and has resorted to prostitution. She is facing prison time. This is my truth. In addition to losing my precious Molly, I lost most of my family a long time ago.
Maybe I’m crazy for putting this out there, but the pain of holding it in is too much to bear in addition to losing Molly. This is my truth. It’s just the beginning of my story. I hope that my openness allows you to share your own story in whatever way is right for you.
I will also add that my youngest half-sister makes me so proud. Nothing has been easy for her or given to her. She has experienced too much trauma. Yet, she remains kind, generous and intelligent. She’s 13 years younger but always shows up for me. Light prevails over darkness.
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I converted to Judaism when I was pregnant with Molly. This is my first time experiencing shiva, the Jewish mourning tradition. Since #TEAMMOLLY involves learning about our diverse rituals, customs and beliefs, I wanted to share this article about shiva. reformjudaism.org/everything-you…
We would love to learn about the special ways you celebrate a life lost, grieve and comfort the loved ones who are left behind. Molly was a constant and persistent questioner. She would be proud to inspire people to learn about each other and celebrate their differences.
nytimes.com/2021/02/21/sty… thank you @katierosman for beautifully capturing the light that our unbearable loss has brought to a dark world. #TEAMMOLLY , 152 countries united in love, compassion and finding meaning in suffering. Molly changed the world and she’s just getting started.
To everyone who is grieving, please share the names and stories of your loved ones gone too soon. Let us lift you and your families up with our collective positive energy. It is powerful. #TEAMMOLLY
We are humbled that Molly’s aunts and uncles have chosen to honor her memory in an absolutely perfect way. There is an animal petting zoo near Beersheva Israel that is being named for Molly.
It is a 25-acre, state-of-the-art rehabilitative village that offers unparalleled care for people with severe disabilities, empowering residents and outpatients to reach their potential for communication and development while providing thousands of jobs to area residents.
The village cares for adults and children with severe disabilities. Onsite is a large petting zoo which features horses, dogs, rabbits, chickens, goats, fish and birds. There will be a plaque for Molly. Our family looks forward to traveling there for its unveiling.
1/2 7 pm - J is at the hospital. I’m home. They will let us swap but not be together. The boys are with family. The dog is with his trainer. It’s better that J is there now because I had reached a point of constant uncontrollable sobbing, and that is not good energy for Molly.
Molly is ON the ventilator. I thought they were weaning her off but I guess I misunderstood. That’s the problem with having one parent who is in shock being there alone.
Today was basically uneventful for her, which is good. I love her surgeon. He said most additional bleeds and things of that nature show up within 6 hours of surgery. The farther out from surgery, the less likely we will see more injuries. Swelling is the major concern now.
Update 2/1, 230 - The dr removed one of the heavy sedatives for about an hour to see if Molly would wake up. She didn’t. I know that can be normal because we are still only 1 day after the accident and she just had major surgery. But I thought she would, and it gutted me.
I told the Dr that I’m scared she won’t wake up and he said he is “fairly certain” she will. I asked what he meant by that. He said that they don’t see any reason why she wouldn’t but he’s not God. He can’t say for certain. Her EKG shows brain activity, which is good.
The one thing that would help our family the most is for Jon to be allowed in here with me, or at least that we be permitted to swap out. I cannot handle this alone. I need to see our boys and they need me. I literally ran out of the house yesterday without even seeing our 4 yro.