1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 329 of #MrMrsBetterHalf. Mr. & Mrs Better Half is designed to strengthen marriages & relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2. This week, I’m continuing the conversation on a desperate cry from a married man, ‘my wife wants access to my bank account, and I know that means disaster!’. #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. Please feel free to retweet and mention others to read this thread. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. Last week, I mentioned that what if only one of you is employed and brings in cash? Why should the money-maker be accountable to the person who brings in little or nothing? #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. I’ll take the opportunity to talk to singles and young couples today as a continuation on this topic. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. I strongly advise that at the start of a marriage, you both do what you can to bring some money into your family. Even if one party is incredibly wealthy, it takes two to build a home. Do your own part. Don’t forsake it. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. Don’t worry about if it pales in comparison to your partner’s contribution. Just contribute. There could be exceptions- like if your spouse is in school but that should have a time limit. Schooling should equip the spouse to become an income earner ASAP. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. Now, what if you decide that you want one parent to be at home to care for the kids while they are very young? This is a very important decision that must be weighed critically from all sides. Don’t be overly emotional about it. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. Jobs are precious in this economy so count the cost carefully before you say goodbye to yours. Monetize the cost of childcare (crèche, nanny, pre-school) and incidental expenses like fuel, driver, etc. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. Compare that to what your spouse now earns and decide whether forfeiting that job is worth it. It just might be. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. Next, think of the future. Let’s say you have 2/3 children. In about 5-7years they will be of school age. What structures are in place to ensure your spouse will be relevant in the labour market after 5 years of being at home? #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. Will he/she need to go to school, take courses, start a small business, or just go straight back into the job market? Make realistic plans for how the stay-at-home parent can successfully transition into career/business.
13. Being a stay-at-home parent is a decision you must both wholeheartedly agree to and each party should do his/her part willingly and cheerfully. No resentment is allowed. For the stay-at-home parent, ensure the value you bring is apparent. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. Should the spouse who stays at home have a say in what happens to the family finances? YES!!! The stay-at-home spouse brings great value into the relationship and should be respected for his/her contribution. #MrMrsBetterHalf
15. Don’t withhold salaries or bonuses from him/her and don’t make your spouse have to beg for an allowance. Money brings a certain level of dignity. Don’t ever degrade your spouse by withholding cash. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. When you have paid the bills split what is left that can be referred to as spending money fairly. Above all, embrace the spirit of generosity. The liberal soul will be made fat. Be generous to yourself, to your spouse and to God. You will be better for it. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. So guys and ladies, don’t panic when it comes to sharing details about your income or granting access to your accounts! If you love your spouse, show some vulnerability and say, ‘what is mine is ours’. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. I hope this has been helpful. I will be back next week with a new question to answer. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. Till next week Friday, thank you for following, participating and RTing. May your marriages and relationships be sweet!
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