Thread by @LuxAlptraum

I was talking recently with someone about unsolicited dick pix, and who does and does not receive them, and — knowing full well that this admission will likely result in a flood of dick pix in my DMs — I don't usually receive unsolicited dick pix, and I don't know why.

I have a *guess* though, and it's rooted in the knowledge that there are two kinds of unsolicited dick pix: there are the dick pix men send to unsuspecting partners because they think they will like them, and the dick pix men send because they want to demean and shame someone.

The latter, of course, being the dick pix I expect to receive because I publicly admitted that I don't get sent dick pix, because *that is what happened the last time I publicly admitted that*.

Anyway.

The reason *I* think I don't get sent dick pix often, and it's very funny for me to say this out loud because it feels ridiculous, is that *men are intimidated by me*.

This works on both fronts! As Sean notes, I *do* seem like this kind of person; and it kind of takes the wind out of your sails if you're thinking of surprising me with a dick pic. If you're trying to intimidate me: I looked at dicks for years for work.

https://twitter.com/StorySlug/status/1367476898352279561?s=20

Likewise, if you're trying to impress me: I looked at dicks for years for work. And, notably, I did this as a "respectable" journalist and not as a "slut" who needs to be taken down a peg which... I mean that's a whole other dimension, oof.

But seriously, there's a reason why that "Is that a child's dick?" response that periodically goes viral on Twitter works so well as a way to defang and deflate dick pic senders: see, Atwood, Margaret, men fear being laughed at

And I want to be *very* clear that I'm not saying this to be proscriptive, this is emphatically not, "Ladies! Tired of dick pix? TRY BEING A COLD HEARTED BITCH" because the problem is *not you* it's people who do shit without getting consent first.

But I think it's interesting to see how clearly this breaks down as being about power, and how men specifically target women who they feel they have or desire power over. 🤷🏻‍♀️

PS The parallel to this is that I *do* periodically get unsolicited messages from men who insist the want to be my sub and be humiliated by me, which I personally find incredibly gross (not male subs as a category, just the pushy insistence on putting me in domme role).