“If I don’t abuse women, how can you say I benefit from abuse perpetrated by men who do?”
Because women have learned to expect male abuse, and many will accept less from you, gratefully even, when you don’t harm them.
Ask me how many times I’ve heard, “at least he’s not perv.”
Because women have learned to expect male abuse, and many will accept less from you, gratefully even, when you don’t harm them.
Ask me how many times I’ve heard, “at least he’s not perv.”
This is the root of your frustration with not receiving credit for being “one of the good guys.”
You are accustomed to being rewarded for a lack of harm.
“Thanks for accepting my declination”
“Thanks for not talking over me.”
“Thanks for caring whether I want to have sex.”
You are accustomed to being rewarded for a lack of harm.
“Thanks for accepting my declination”
“Thanks for not talking over me.”
“Thanks for caring whether I want to have sex.”
“Thanks for including me”
“Thanks for not being possessive.”
“Thanks for listening to me”
“Thanks for not harassing me in the street, at work, or online”
“Thanks SO much for agreeing that men shouldn’t abuse me. You’re a REAL man.”
“You’re not like the other guys.”
“Thanks for not being possessive.”
“Thanks for listening to me”
“Thanks for not harassing me in the street, at work, or online”
“Thanks SO much for agreeing that men shouldn’t abuse me. You’re a REAL man.”
“You’re not like the other guys.”
So when you get angry or frustrated over a lack of reward, what you are teaching us, re-teaching us, is that when we expect you to treat us with the same level of respect you treat men, we owe you something. If we dont want to pay up, we shouldnt expect respect.
Stop doing that.
Stop doing that.
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