As a general rule, I assume that racism is probably not a motivation for most things.
Not that it *can't* be, only that it's culturally inflated to the point where I automatically adjust downwards.
There's *lots* of other often-worse motivations for things that aren't racism.
Like, I think a lot of what's perceived as racism would be more accurately described as:
*cultural bias
*classism
*religious fear
*unintended outcomes of innocent upstream things
*gender role problems
*genetics
And to reiterate - this doesn't mean I don't think racism exists. I think it absolutely does, where it does it's horribly damaging to the people who suffer from it, and we shouldn't dismiss racism as "oh it's just classism or something" in cases where this isn't true.
My point is more- when I was religious, we believed that Christians were persecuted, and so any info that involved Christians having a bad time was reinterpreted as persecution.
Now, some Christians *are* persecuted, and this is awful! But *also*, I shoulda been more skeptical.
And to claim authority of identity, I am a woman and think a lot of the claims of sexism against women are overblown and can be attributed to other things, and I automatically downgrade the chance something is sexist when I hear about it. But this doesn't mean sexism isn't real!
I just think it's a very general human feature - when a powerful narrative hits us (like one involving underdogs), it's typically powerful *because* it has truth, and then once it grows teeth it becomes a bigger caricature that's powerful *regardless* of the truth.
And it can be extremely hard to figure out how to knock down the false caricature without also knocking down the important truths inside of it. Lots of people get reactive and aren't interested in preserving any of it. It's a really hard, triggering, and messy process.
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Lots of ppl hate sex workers, which sometimes tempts me to underplay the negative aspects of my job - stuff they'd use to reinforce their position.
But me being dishonest about my reality also reinforces them. I have much more hope in persistent, nuanced honesty.
I want to have the strength to look into the face of someone who hates what I represent and go "you're not wrong about xyz". It's really hard to do! But it's a demonstration that you're treating their mind with respect, that you're not trying to weasel anything into their head.
And the best way to change someone's mind or allow your mind to be changed by them is to demonstrate that you're not enemies and you won't hurt them, that you will refuse to use dishonesty or manipulation to advance your own position, that you want the truth to destroy one of you
The first time I did LSD was at a party in a suburb in New Jersey with a bunch of people I mostly didn't know. I was 21 and hadn't done any drug before besides alcohol, because I was terrified of modifying my brain. I really liked THINKING RATIONALLY and BEING SMART. 1/
but at this party I was a little drunk, and people were being adventurous, and my friend slid up to me and was like 'do u want to eat this strip of paper' and I was like... okay you know what? YOLO. YO-goddamn-LO.
I ate the paper and then sat waiting, kind of autistically. 2/
The party was on, and I didn't really know 'how' to party; I wasn't very good at interacting with the public-school-secular world yet. I had no idea what LSD was like either, I knew almost nothing about it at all. It was supposed to make your world wiggly, right? 3/
How can I plausibly estimate the total volume of semen jizzed primarily to me? I can probably estimate a range of my total content/views across time, but I don't know how to estimate what % of viewers do end up jizzing, or how much content it takes to generate one jizz on average
Ok let's assume jizz is approximately 0.75tsp. The majority of people who follow me are between 25-35, which has higher-than-average jizz content. Apparentlyit's normal to be between 0.25 and 1 tsp, but let's just assume .75
I'd estimate there's been a total of around 20m views of my specifically pornographic content in general? The heaviest hitters would be reddit + pornhub, which I'd estimate at ... 10m views total? And then just throw in another 10m for all the other sharing sites.
I'm not arguing that everybody should go poly, or that it's best for everybody. I'm arguing:
1-Monog ppl have lots of severe misconceptions about polyamory
2-Monogamy is in the water supply; a lot of people don't 'actually' have a poly option or know they'd be happier poly
Monogamous people *constantly* misunderstand and judge polyamory and repeat this stuff loudly - one of the most egregious offenders being a confusion between exclusivity and commitment. Poly people "aren't serious" or "can't raise healthy kids."
And because polyamory is so heavily shamed, misunderstood, and derided in culture, it's also not *ever* reflected in media. There's almost zero poly representation anywhere. Monogamous thought is EVERYWHERE. It is so cloyingly obvious once you're looking for it. -
The redefinition of the word ‘racist’ freaks me out. We went through centuries of rationalizing it any way we could to finally figure out that ‘discrimination based on race’ was a horrible thing regardless of justification.
But redefinition is just another justification! 1/
Do you think the racists back in the day that went around enslaving people didn’t have justifications? That they were holding hands in their ships singing the “we are evil” song? No! They were like “this is good for them”. Literally, this is what they thought.
2/
And the only way we made this stop is by going no, your justifications aren’t valid. You personally thinking this is a good thing for whatever damn reason, no matter how compelling, isn’t cutting it. Treating people terribly based on their race is bad, full stop, no exceptions. 3
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