Armie Hammer says these allegations are “attention seeking.” Here's a PSA: When a survivor chooses to share their story publicly, it’s often because they know they are not alone. All too often, they know they are not the only victim this person has harmed. Effie, I believe you!
We as survivors don’t share our stories in hopes of fame or fortune. We are not opportunists. We have nothing to gain + everything to lose. And yet, we do it, time and again, because we know that it will help others to come forward, to speak out, to feel safe. Effie, we love you.
In sharing our stories survivors and victims hold our abusers accountable in a way the criminal legal system so often does not. Story sharing looks different for every survivor, but often is a part of their healing process. Effie, we are here for you. #MeToo#StandWithSurvivors
Effie said on Thursday: "In speaking out today, I hope to keep others from falling victim to him in the future." When survivors share our stories it's often an act of love and care to other people. Literally saying "I never want you to have to experience what I did"
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Time's Up was founded on the basis of welcoming survivors w/ open arms, advocating for them relentlessly, for fair workplaces + justice. Esther Choo did the exact opposite. Now Roberta Kaplan, Tina Tchen + others are supporting an enabler, someone who was complicit in abuse.
Is this what you want your legacy to be Time's Up? Remember that survivors and victims are watching. We see that you're choosing a complicit bystander over a survivor. It's horrifying. This is not how you live and operationalize your supposed "survivor-centric" values.
Not only do I believe we can do better, but I know we can. I know from first hand experience. I know it can be infuriating to see an organization that was meant to support us, only fail us. To be there for us, only disappoint and choose perpetrators over survivors.
If hearing someone's story is difficult, remember what that victim-survivor had to experience and *survive* in order for you to hear it. If a story is "hard to read" imagine how hard it is to survive. Meet survivors with love and support, envelope them in compassion.
When survivors share our stories and people respond with “nauseating” and “hard to read”, it’s not that they can’t picture it, it’s that they don’t want to. It’s a hurt they cannot imagine surviving. It is unimaginable for so many. It's a way to distance themselves from the harm.
I am grateful to @LindseyBoylan, @_char_bennett_, Anna Ruch, Ana Liss, + others for sharing their stories, working to hold @NYGovCuomo accountable, for bringing light to the system no one wants to discuss. These women are breaking the world open, they deserve + need our support
"By sharing our stories we can realize that we are one of many and begin to identify solutions" - @TanyaAuthor speaking to @WEEMSCarrie about her book and what it meant for her to come forward and share her story of intimate partner violence
"A man who championed women publicly but abused them privately should not be the Attorney General of New York." - @TanyaAuthor speaking specifically of Schneiderman but you cannot hear this and not think about what is happening in the Governor's mansion and office with Cuomo.
Again I ask, what will it take for these women to be believed? How many survivors must break themselves open, pour their trauma in front of the public + elected officials to only wait for something to be done? Our job as survivors is to heal, not to be martyrs for systemic change
I want to acknowledge that many survivors and victims cannot share their stories publicly. That does not make their experiences and stories any less real, valid, or horrifying. There is space for all of us.
Survivors of sexual assault are asked repeatedly to share our stories, to "be brave". However, there are no real support systems in place to prepare us for the before and after of going public. I want to change that with the Survivor Storytelling Survey: bit.ly/SurvivorStoryS…
As I’ve connected with survivors, and supported them throughout their story sharing experiences, I’ve realized how little, if any support, there is for victims and survivors of sexual violence who speak publicly. I hope for this survey to change that. bit.ly/SurvivorStoryS…
I am looking to hear directly from survivors and victims about their experiences sharing their stories publicly, and from that think about how we can better establish support systems for storytelling. bit.ly/SurvivorStoryS…
/1 @ItsOnUs, can you help me understand how @lyft gets to be heralded as a champion of sexual assault prevention when survivors + victims are sharing our stories? When we are speaking our truth? Telling the world of the harm and abuse we have experienced: nytimes.com/2019/12/05/bus…
/2 Why not include these women who are sharing their stories of rape, kidnapping, harassment, abuse, unwanted touching + harm at the hands of @lyft drivers? Our lived experiences speak volumes compared to the silencing @lyft has done for years #MeToo marieclaire.com/politics/a3275…
/3 As @AyannaPressley says "the people closest to the pain, should be the closest to the power, driving & informing the policymaking." Why isn't that happening here @ItsOnUs and @lyft? Why are we purposely being sidelined and silenced?