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27 Mar, 5 tweets, 1 min read
The woke people will hate you for disagreeing; we gotta combat this by accepting them despite disagreeing. When they ban you from their circles, let them into yours (given they are respectful and don't insult). Treat them with kindness, don't fight their hate with hate.
and likewise, when the woke eat their own, offer support for the outcast woke, don't mock them with 'payback's a bitch'.
Be like yeah, we know, we've been through it and it sucks. We have a place for you here and you don't even have to believe what we do; just have compassion.
Cause this isn't sustainable if your goal is to suppress and shut up the woke, even if they want to do that to you. If the goal is to reach them, connect to them as humans, you have to remember the purpose is communication, not dominance. Kindness, not winning.
And yeah, sometimes you have to draw boundaries for self protection, and this is okay and good and don't feel guilty about that. But it's easy to *think* you're being threatened when you're not; it's better to err a on the side of taking a hurt you can bear, than hurting them.
Showing that you will not hurt them, even if they would hurt you, is the way to affect change. It might take a long time, it might need to be iterated, and it's not always feasible, but if we continually try to lean in that direction, people will notice.

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21 Mar
I'm sorry I'm still not over the massage parlor shootings. This guy explicitly targeted sex workers, both his stated motive and every piece of evidence points to this, yet the discourse is almost entirely about general anti-Asian hate crimes.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2021_Atla…
It's infuriating. Sex workers are marginalized by society, prohibited from financial services, put in literal jail, often don't have another choice of employment, and when they get slaughtered, what happens? People focus on another common factor and pretend it was due to THAT.
I am really enraged. Absolutely furious. Even if asian-ness *was* a factor, which it easily might not have been (not all killed were asian, asians tend to populate easily-accessible massage parlors, and he could have easily targeted non-sex-work asians),
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20 Mar
this might come as a shock but I feel kinda uncomfortable talking too directly about sex and what arouses me to the public, and I'm not fully sure why. Some theories:
1 latent sexual shame that can only handle being publicly sexual when it's clearly compartmentalized
2 fear people will lie to me to make me think we're sexually compatible
3 i haven't seen other ppl do it yet
4 people might actually arouse me and thus have control over me (??)
But I also have a desire *to* be totally sexually open. There's a lil deep part of me that feels confused when intimacy has boundaries, like if I'm afraid of showing people something in myself then I'm afraid of seeing the same thing in them, which doesn't feel like love.
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17 Mar
As a general rule, I assume that racism is probably not a motivation for most things.
Not that it *can't* be, only that it's culturally inflated to the point where I automatically adjust downwards.
There's *lots* of other often-worse motivations for things that aren't racism.
Like, I think a lot of what's perceived as racism would be more accurately described as:
*cultural bias
*classism
*religious fear
*unintended outcomes of innocent upstream things
*gender role problems
*genetics
And to reiterate - this doesn't mean I don't think racism exists. I think it absolutely does, where it does it's horribly damaging to the people who suffer from it, and we shouldn't dismiss racism as "oh it's just classism or something" in cases where this isn't true.
Read 7 tweets
24 Feb
Lots of ppl hate sex workers, which sometimes tempts me to underplay the negative aspects of my job - stuff they'd use to reinforce their position.
But me being dishonest about my reality also reinforces them. I have much more hope in persistent, nuanced honesty.
I want to have the strength to look into the face of someone who hates what I represent and go "you're not wrong about xyz". It's really hard to do! But it's a demonstration that you're treating their mind with respect, that you're not trying to weasel anything into their head.
And the best way to change someone's mind or allow your mind to be changed by them is to demonstrate that you're not enemies and you won't hurt them, that you will refuse to use dishonesty or manipulation to advance your own position, that you want the truth to destroy one of you
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16 Feb
The first time I did LSD was at a party in a suburb in New Jersey with a bunch of people I mostly didn't know. I was 21 and hadn't done any drug before besides alcohol, because I was terrified of modifying my brain. I really liked THINKING RATIONALLY and BEING SMART. 1/
but at this party I was a little drunk, and people were being adventurous, and my friend slid up to me and was like 'do u want to eat this strip of paper' and I was like... okay you know what? YOLO. YO-goddamn-LO.
I ate the paper and then sat waiting, kind of autistically. 2/
The party was on, and I didn't really know 'how' to party; I wasn't very good at interacting with the public-school-secular world yet. I had no idea what LSD was like either, I knew almost nothing about it at all. It was supposed to make your world wiggly, right? 3/
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14 Feb
How can I plausibly estimate the total volume of semen jizzed primarily to me? I can probably estimate a range of my total content/views across time, but I don't know how to estimate what % of viewers do end up jizzing, or how much content it takes to generate one jizz on average
Ok let's assume jizz is approximately 0.75tsp. The majority of people who follow me are between 25-35, which has higher-than-average jizz content. Apparentlyit's normal to be between 0.25 and 1 tsp, but let's just assume .75
I'd estimate there's been a total of around 20m views of my specifically pornographic content in general? The heaviest hitters would be reddit + pornhub, which I'd estimate at ... 10m views total? And then just throw in another 10m for all the other sharing sites.
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