Thread by @GbengaWemimo

He fell in love with another woman
He was married at the same time
He didn't really have an excuse for whatever he felt
There are many things he could point to as his excuse
Many things he could itemize as the reason
The bottom line was his feelings, his thoughts and his desire

they just seemed to have found solace with someone else
Someone with a calming and assuring spirit
Someone less volatile
Someone less unwise
There was a time he loved his wife too
Perhaps he still loves her a little
but the affection had waned terribly
His wife was in his opinion

not worthy of all the attention and the love he expended on her from day one
All she wanted was a ring
He didn't see that from the beginning but it became obvious after they got married
She was very warm and accommodating while they were courting but became cold and distant right

from their wedding night
The first thing she said when they got to their honeymoon venue was "I finally got this monkey off my my back"
He didn't take that to mean so much until the next day when she said "I had to settle for you since no other man came calling, I just felt you

should know that"
He didn't quite know how to respond to her words
He had married her under the impression that they were both in love
He didn't know how he was supposed to respond to her jibe about settling for him
Her words hurt him to the bone
Later that day, she had her bath

and walked into the room naked
"Are you angry with me?"She asked
He just looked at her, he was not even in the mood to reply to her or respond to her
But there is a way a woman's naked body causes a man's body to act despite its true feelings
That was the story of their honeymoon

All duty
She flipped back into her old life without a second thought
He was left alone in the boat of love
Left alone in the cold
He spoke to his mother
His mother told him you never stop toasting and wooing a woman
He began to try
How hard can it be to get a woman you are sleep

-ing with to fall in love with you
She simply didn't respond to his overtures
He brought her breakfast in bed one day, she said "Really? Who told you I have time for this sort of thing"
He dropped the food on the bed beside her
She didn't touch it
He had to throw it in the trash

when he returned home from the office later that day
His wife had a life, a reality that was exclusive to her
She had her business and friends
He was just something she needed to mark her achievements calendar
The same goes with their children
The boy and the girl
She delivered

them for him to nurture
She traveled to the USA to deliver both children
She returned home with their birth certificates and handed them over to him
He practically nursed them with the help of two nannies
He didn't complain to anybody
He took it as life throwing him curved balls

His wife never cheated
At least not with a guy
He suspected that she was into some of her female friends
At a point, it became somehow obvious through her attitude to him but he never caught them in the act
Whenever those friends were around, she became especially mean to him

It wasn't what he bargained for
His wife was not incapable of love
She was just not capable of loving him and the children the way a maternally inclined woman would
Many people call him blessed and he was proud of the woman he married
She was independently wealthy, a business

tycoon
She was not a burden on him financially
She even bought him a car for his 35th birthday
but she was not a wife
She acted more like one of those absentee husbands whose wives were always begging for attention and love
That was her nature
And she wasn't deliberately mean to

him
She treated members of her family the same way
She was independent and assertive
Domineering and controlling
It has to be her way or no way at all
Even on their marital bed, things must only go her way
If he tried anything new, she would get turned off and the fountain of

honey would get closed and may not open for many months
Everything was done to satisfy her whims
He was a faithful believer
He never even considered cheating
Until this lady came to the house to see his wife
The lady was the manager of his wife's cosmetics outfit located at Ikeja

His wife asked him to drop the lady off on his way out
The lady got into the car and started weeping
She had been duped by a customer who bought a lot of goods and paid with fake bank alert
She came to the house to report what had happened
His wife (Her boss) told her she should

go and report herself to the police station in computer village immediately
He tried to console the lady but she was too distraught
So he asked her how much the money was
She told him
It was not so little but for his wife's standard the money was a chicken change
He gave her the

money
She insisted he must follow her to the shop to see for himself that she was duped
She didn't want him to think she was using her tears to part him with his money unjustly
She insisted she wouldn't take the money unless he followed her to the shop
He went with her & somehow

he saw it again
The vulnerable, soft, warm, and motherly allure
He had totally forgotten how attracted he was to that sort of spirit and how it soothes him
He enjoyed her company so much that he didn't go for the Sunday school preparatory class he was heading to anymore
She was a

breath of fresh air
They exchanged numbers and became friends
He offered her nothing and demanded nothing
Somehow they would exchange youtube videos and chats
They had so much in common
She was a believer too
Two months after they met she got a better job and left his wife's

company
He went to see her two weeks after she resumed at her new job
She took him to lunch and they discussed as friends
He bought two movie tickets two weeks later and they went to the cinemas together
(He had not been to the cinemas in years by that time)
He was happy
He felt

alive
He started waking up with excitement again
He knew it was wrong but he didn't care
It was light seeing the light again after a long time in the darkness
She sent him a message after three months of their "relationship" asking him to define what was going on
They had not had

any form of physical intimacy but he was in love with her already
He asked her if she would leave him if he told her the truth
She said if the truth involves the word "love" she would never respond to his messages again
He said Okay
They met two days later, he was barely holding

back his tears
She noticed that he was quiet and withdrawn
She asked him what was wrong
He held her hand, looked into her eyes, and kissed her
He expected a push, a slap, a spit on his face
He got none of that
She kissed him back
They were both lost and they knew it
After the

kiss, she said goodbye and walked away without looking back
He knew what she did was the most sensible thing to be done
He had taught Sunday School for years and he was the one who takes the topic on Temptation every year
He was the shining example of self-control and discipline

When he got home that day, he tossed and turned on the bed
He must get a divorce
It was the only thing ringing on his mind
The only opportunity he has to be happy in his life couldn't be allowed to slip away like that
Who was he trying to impress with sorrow & misery
He deserved

to be happy too
By 5AM in the morning, he got a phone call
It was from the Brother in Jeans and T-shirt
They had met earlier that year when the brother in Jeans and T-shirt was invited to minister in their church
The Brother in Jeans and T-shirt said "My brother, the Holy Spirit

just showed me a vision. In that vision, I was with many people. We were about to have a programme but the hall we were to use was covered with waste and feces.
I saw people cleaning it up but we had to wait for a long while in the sun while the cleaning up exercise was going on.

When I woke up, i still had th spittle and nauseous feeling from that vision in my mouth.
I asked the Holy Spirit what it was that I saw
He said it has to do with you
He said a scandal is about to break out around you, it will cause a delay in your spiritual ascent and destiny

fulfilment. If you will shake off this scandal and prevent if from happening, you will get to your destination quickly and without any encumbrance."
The massage was too apt
He thanked the brother in Jeans and T-shirt and turned his face to the wall
He cried from 5:30am till 9am

He deleted the lady's number and resumed his miserable life and walk with the Holy Spirit
Two weeks later, he was chosen by the church as the pastor in charge of a new branch located on Lagos Island
He accepted the position with joy
One year later,his wife's mother died
They went

to the village for the burial
He flew back to Lagos to make it in time for Sunday Service
His wife traveled by road and had a motor accident somewhere before Benin
She died.
Two years later he got married again.
Guess who he got married to...

PS: This event happened in Lagos and

Port Harcourt
He is still a pastor
His wife is currently pregnant with their fourth child
(Two from his late wife)
I don't want this story to be misinterpreted in any way pls
Can we just leave it as it happened and try not to apportion blame
Let us learn whatever we can from it.