When I worked in the MI House there were legislators who roamed the halls at night in their briefs and frequented strip clubs with their legislator name tag.
My coworker's wife had been sexually harassed by some of the highest officials when she worked there. . .
Early on I was notified about a list the Speaker kept of which male legislators were no longer allowed to hire female staff because of blatant sexual harassment. My employment options were limited - they roamed free.
The point is this: Sexually abusive behavior is often signaled in 100 ways and preceded or accompanied by sexually deviant behavior. Porn culture. "Boys will be boys" mindset.
And we not only tolerate it, we elect it and endorse it. And then wonder why abuse flourishes.
Why did none of the women harassed and objectified by Gaetz speak up? Maybe they weren't aware of everything he was doing with their images. Or maybe they were, and they knew, like we all do, that almost no one REALLY cares. Not enough to do anything when it would actually cost.
Maybe they knew that because we elected a man who bragged about assaulting women and was the object of over a dozen abuse claims.
Maybe because he first ran against a woman credibly accused of covering up her own husband's abuse and no one cared then either.
Maybe because another president who disgraced the Oval Office with his intern was applauded and is still on the speaking circuit, while the intern was decimated.
Maybe because we didn't listen to the other women who spoke out about that same president.
Those in Gaetz's community could have known who he was and maybe saved a child. In many ways, many of them DID know what he was.
And yet he was back on that floor over and over again, and no one said a word.
Victims reap what so many others sow.
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How you teach gender roles, and how you talk about women, how you sexualize them as temptations or dangers, matters. It can be life and death.
The way you indirectly blame women for abuse, lust, assault, "temptation", can be life and death.
This is happening in your pulpits, in your seminaries, in your counseling programs. It is in your marriage books, your books on womanhood and manhood, it is in your counseling sessions. It is in your purity books and discussions. It is in your social media.
@RodDMartin@AlsoACarpenter@david_bumg@bradjurkovich@BaptistNetwork Christians should care about libel. Which is why I remain appalled that the Executive Committee has never publicly confessed or repented of libeling Jen Lyell on a national platform, much less had any accountability for the members involved.
For every leader who has written a blog post, tweeted, commented on, the steps being taken by RZIM, how good they are, how important the truth is, or how to prevent this, please hear the grief you are compounding:
You have written about how God and right these steps are, but not until they were already taken. Not until the facade was removed.
You did not lift your voice to cry for the truth you now applaud. That fell on the shoulders of the victims. The women.
You applaud the independent investigation, but never pressed for it when it needed to be done.
When your voice was desperately needed in 2017 and all the years that followed, you were silent.
You left the victims alone, your silence a deafening testament that you did not care
As an attorney I can't find a legal basis for this decision and I am horrified. The victim spent a month in the hospital with a brain bleed and fractured skull, and it was caught on tape.
What is even more disturbing is that after these officers were arrested following their attack, 60 other officers refused to serve on the task force any longer.
60 officers believed this was justified and right conduct. 60 officers defended this and would do the same.
No institution is healthy with unfettered authority. But when those authority figures are given the ability to use force, and even deadly force, the checks and balances ought to be that much higher.
She was lost in her imagination, a princess dancing, on an adventure "in the woods". Then she turned around and lifted her little face and laughed, "But monsters aren't real, are they mommy?"
And time stood still as everything I hear, every day, flashed in my mind...
Her innocence and joy juxtaposed
against horrors that defy description and are far more common than we want to know. Against my own memories and everything I witnessed in a courtroom three years ago.
"Are monsters real?"
I could not answer her.
When you have seen, it changes the way you see everything.
When I see my children, I see the ones I couldn't save. When I see the ones I couldn't save, I see the children they were.
I see the names of the files on Larry's computer, and the millions of children they represent.
(1). SBC members (and their legal counsel) would like to seek more transparency regarding EC budget matters. For example, if the EC commits a tort against someone but swears they have no control over their own funds to provide restitution. . .
SBC members would like the EC to be honest about their actual budget and ability.
(2) SBC Members would like the EC, in the interest of unity, to focus on where the SBC has spoken through resolutions. Like, say, the credentialing committee and it's given mission to ensure sex offenders and enablers aren't pastoring.