Thread by @UjuAnya

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but, if you’re paying for plane tickets, hotels, meals, dates, and other gifts for someone who travels to have sex with you, you ARE paying for sex. Ass ain’t free—certainly not the kind you like—and you’re well aware of this fact.

Conversely, if you’re getting “flewed out” to provide sex, and an adult doing this of your free will and under no coercion to feed a habit, good for you, enjoy yourself. However, know you’re being paid for sex, so understand these transactions, implied contracts, and your rights.

People out here declaring “I have never paid for sex. I’m a generous lover who pays for tickets, dinners, and gifts.” Nah, trick, you pay for sex. Just like the person you paying for sex is doing sex work. If both are consenting adults, understand the business being conducted.

Not saying all this to judge anyone’s lifestyle and sexual transactions. As long as there’s no coercion or minors involved, play safe, and enjoy what your financial resources can buy or what your attributes and skills can sell. However, don’t lie to yourself about what you doing.

All this re: Matt Gaetz declaring he doesn’t pay for sex. Also recalls an old Nina Hartley video introducing new actors to adult film work. First thing she said was, “For those thinking you’re not getting paid for sex, please understand, yes, you are being paid to have sex.”