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Let's talk about Ben 10 culture in Kenya! What's happening to the boy child

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They're in their early 20's -late 30's. I can not tell you how many times these little boys have professed their deepest love for me 45 year old woman with 3 kids!! They look thirsty, infatuated with my lifestyle. It is sad to watch! I can only imagine that there are

women out here who take advantage of these situations and run with it. Cougar life is NOT for me, I beg

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TLDR Allow me to make a few assumptions here. You're 45(Obvious), you're probably an entrepreneur, business owner or a management level employee in a respected industry or company. You're probably married to a person that obviously can afford to take

care of you, your three kids, investments here and there and your lifestyle. You come from a family that can afford a lot of things, money is no issue. For these men, there are so many assumptions I don't know where to begin, let's go with the one

that probably is closest to your lifestyle. This is a 20-30 year old guy, it's probably his first or second job or he's just started making cash from his biashara or he's coming from a monied family and he's probably a client, or in the same

position in the same company as you are. He now earns enough to go give the illusion that he can take care of someone, so he goes hunting. Now, in this age of instant gratification, he gets questions like 'Hauna gari? hauna nyumba? hauna this and

that. ' Allow me to make another assumption here. Women his age matured waay back and are looking to settle and aren't about to waste time with someone with money illusions. They settle for nusu mkate and go for someone close to your husband(power,

money ,drama, everything ). Where does this leave our man? You! Wewe; education, pesa sio issue, instant gratification, ****; an hour or so with you every other day and the cycle continues. (and you wonder why AIDS, Infidelity. is rampant in married

cycles). We're in an instant gratification society where every second we're bombarded with messages of instantly satisfying our needs, we're all selfish and we almost always go for what satisfies us, the sooner the better and you are right 'Cougar

life is NOT for me, I beg', but statistically, is that the same for your male and female colleagues especially with instant gratification? A quick google search for 'Cougar statistics Kenya' reveals that it's actually older women who search for

younger men. You must be different. Sample the below statements 'Experts say some thrive on the social status and financial power that comes from taking much poorer, younger lovers. 'It's not love, obviously. I didn't come here looking for a

husband,' 'It's a social arrangement. I buy him a nice shirt and we go out for dinner. For as long as he stays with me he doesn't pay for anything, and I get what I want -- a good time. How is that different from a man buying a young girl dinner?'

'Owing to further liberation of sexuality, more and more women are dating younger guys. Cougars are becoming more commonplace and it’s no longer dragged around as a murky, seedy, underbelly of a corrupt society but more a way of life that’s just-

normal. ' 'Older, more experienced women are given the chance to teach the younglings a lot more- in the bedroom and wherever. The younger generation would be more amenable to receiving “tutoring” than older guys. ' 'It goes without saying, younger

men have more stamina. ' Even in church. 'So last year I met this very handsome boy in my church. I was like perfect; handsome- check, black- check, loves Jesus- check……He was 27. ' What about overseas? 'They note that a large survey of Americans

found "roughly 13 percent of sexually active women between ages 35 and 44 had slept with a man who was at least five years younger. ' You might be different and probably are looking to help them ben 10s but critically look at our world through data

and statistics especially through the eyes of instant gratification, you're in for a BIG surprise, let us know what you uncover