Thread by @YngBlknMarried

Healthy relationships aren't born, they're developed through attention and effort. Knowing each other's love languages takes effort. The key is to regularly communicate with your partner and ask what they need from you...
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My love language is quality time. My wife knows there are few things I want more from her except quality time.
Laying next to her. Talking to her. Loving her. That's my love language. BUT it's not my only love language...

None of us have just ONE love language. We need all five. All of us needs quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service or gifts in our lives.
See, our love languages change. What I need from my wife today might be different tomorrow...

I love quality time with my wife because it helps me feel closer to her. But if I've had a bad day at work?
I'm wanting words of affirmation from her more than I want to spend time with her.
But after my wife has given me those words of affirmation?...

I'm going to bother her for some physical attention.
And after we've been physical?
I'm going to bother her for more quality time as per usual.
My wife knows this. She accepts it...

My wife's love language is acts of service. I can tell that woman I love her. I can spend time with her. I can touch her. But none of that makes her happy.
Those are my love languages not hers.
My wife likes acts of services and gifts...

Acts of services and gifts mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to me. BUT, they make my wife happy.
So loving my wife is running to the store with her.
Or cooking her dinner.
Or checking the mail.
Or paying that afterpay for her on that purse I seen her order last week...🤔

I've learned to ask my wife what she needs. Just because gifts and acts of services are her normal top choices doesn't make them her only ones.
Acts of services and gifts do not solve everything.

On days that are emotionally hard? My wife doesn't want a gift. She may ask me to provide a service that makes her day easier. But she's going to need to hear a word of affirmation too.
She going to want to spend quality time.
She's going to crave physical touch...

Those arent my wife's love languages, but there are times in our marriage where I've had to provide all 5 love languages to Nicole the same way she has provided all 5 to me.
None of us have only one love language. None of us exist using only one love language.

Healthy relationships aren't born, they're developed through attention and effort. Knowing each other's love languages takes effort. The key is to regularly communicate with your partner and ask what they need from you. 💯✌🏾