Thread by @savndaniel

FEMINISM, AVRIL AMAKA, NIGERIAN FEMINISTS AND TWITTER NG

What is projected [today] as 'feminism' on Nigerian Twitter, is drastically different from what I was taught in school - in my jurisprudence and legal theories class.

It does not even follow with the ideas expressed in the more than 20 books I have read on Feminism, neither does it follow with the research and presentation I have made (as an academic) on Feminism.

One of the most abused concept here on social media is the term 'feminism'. According to Chimamanda, feminism in Nigeria is now a hub for justifying and carrying out wickedness and nastiness of the highest degree.

Sadly, these willful aggrieved Nigerian Feminists are seemingly lettered, knowledgeable and learned. So, one expects them to be and know better.

One notable significance of the ideal feminist crusade is for the man and woman to be placed on equal footings, especially on those aspects of life where women are basically and systematically deprived of their fundamental rights, and social existence without more.

Once a woman has secured her civil and political rights, and is economically independent through synergy in the society, there will be no reason for any man to subject such woman to his sexual whims and caprices. I say this with the greatest of respect.

Admittedly, the Nigerian African traditional society deprive women the opportunity to earn their own living or voice. Women are generally seen as either cooking or baby-making machines. This is one of the pressing issues feminism has come to address.

The African society cruelly projects marriage as the only hope of a decent life for the African woman. However, the biting indices in civilised climes strongly show otherwise. So, the Nigerian space sees an unmarried lady through the prism of an unaccomplished life.

In the Nigerian African Traditional Society, the notion of equal representation is forbidden, and rest solely on the benevolence of the reaction the society gives, if any. The Nigerian African Traditional society, excludes women from all intellectual and social intercourse.

Therefore,feminism advocated along those lines should be the bane of such advocacy - whether feminist or not. In some parts of the east, people are forbidden from marrying from a particular tribe,because they are seen as outcasts. Does this advocacy for feminism not include them?

What we have seen so far is a conglomerate of women who have had too many a bitter experience with men, and have gone all out to label the male gender as a threat to erroneously womanhood. Feminism transcends boyfriend and girlfriend transaction.

The most painful of it all is that women are the greatest barrier to the feminism advocacy. I have read firsthand from Nigerian Feminists advocating for the killing of men, and women for holding an opinion that is deemed different, contradictory and offensive to theirs (sic).

I once opined that we speak of feminism, we should look in the direction of EQUITY more, than equality. Equity means recognising, providing and sustaining a suitable platform that allows womanhood to thrive. Whereas equality means just recognising such right without modalities.

Amaka Avril is dealing with a community of ladies that are genetically bitter, owing to their sour relationships/experience with men. These women create bitterness where none exist. Their knowledge of feminism is tied to sex and relationship. And no more.

It is my submission that social cultural change to aged-long practice must be systematic, accommodating and tolerating. This is what gave birth to the case of Ukejeh v. Ukejeh: where the Court held that a woman has right to inherit her father.

To be continued....

The trend were a conglomerate increasingly assert that "Nigerian men are scum; Nigerian men are dog; Nigerian are undeserving of anything good; Nigerian men do not make good husband - is not only untrue, but most inhumane a statement to make - by Nigerian feminists.

If you are victim of an irresponsible man with a roundabout spirit, deal with such man accordingly. Do not extend your hatred to innocent souls out there. There are good men. There are good women. Ditto evil and bitter men and women. Do not extend your wickedness.

What most 'Nigerian ladies project' as 'feminism' is actually sexism. Both are not one and the same thing. True feminism is advocating for an egalitarian society in all spheres of the gender-institution, not criminality.

Ideally, feminism is driven by the ideology that women also have the right to play 'any' role in the family (aside the act of procreation).

The African setting does not have the stomach to accommodate this narrative - it considers it absurd at the time being, to put loosely.

And this is one of the shortcomings inherent in our culture that feminism as a modern (social/legal) concept has come to address. It is not about waging imaginary war against how men are scum or dog. Please, let us grow beyond this hate for men. We both need each other.

According to my brother Emmanuel King Onyeabor:

Upon careful study and research, we observed that the average Nigerian feminist is a sad disgruntled man-hating matriarchic harpy who conceives feminism in the narrow

spectrum of marriage and general male-female spousal relations; disregarding crucial gender issues plaguing African society. Their conception of feminism has shifted from relevant basic ideals to such ridiculous inanities

as (a) the propriety or otherwise of a woman breastfeeding her own children,(b) the “rights” of married women to abort their unborn babies without their husband’s consent – because women own their body and therefore reserve the right to determine what to keep or expunge therefrom

(c) the reservation of “leadership quotas” for women in politics and governance, (d) the question of chivalry such as who opens the car door for the other person in male-female spousal relations and what it means for gender bias, and (e) the propriety or otherwise of women

describing themselves as wives or mothers before listing their career achievements on social platforms.