Self-confidence is a tool that can help you manage your fears, tackle lifeโs challenges with more certainty, and maintain a positive mental attitude.
It helps you in:
- Being your best under stress
- Influencing others
- Feeling valued
- Being happier
- Being sexier
But no one is born with limitless self-confidence. Itโs something that you learn to build up.
So if youโre an introvert or extremely shy around people; these tips can help you build yourself:
1. Stop Caring About What Other People Think
To feel accepted is a desire in everyone.
Too much concern about what people think can lead us to value only what others want from us, rather than what we desire.
- Let go of perfection
- Get to know yourself
- Find your tribe
2. Look At What Youโve Already Achieved
Make a list of all the things youโre proud of in your life.
When youโre low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done.
3. Smile
Smiling in a social situation tells people that you are open and friendly.
It makes you approachable and memorable. A great smile can help boost self-confidence and improve your social experiences.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself
You should accept that there are always people who do better than you no matter how good you are.
Focus on your strength.
Comparing yourself with others lowers your self-esteem.
Remember you are your greatest competitor.
5. Set Goals
They donโt have to be big goals!
Start with small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence.
- Start working out
- Go for a trip
- help some people
...
You get the idea!
6. Get a Hobby
Find something youโre really passionate about. Some examples:
- Sports
- Writing
- Cooking
- Photography
Hobbies will:
- Force you to take some time for yourself
- Provide a way to declutter your mind
- Keep you in better physical health
- Open up your world
7. Do The Uncomfortable
Confidence is being comfortable in situations that would make people uncomfortable.
Get out of your comfort zone and youโll see after a while youโll have a larger tolerance for most situations.
What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.
8. Choose Your Circle
Your group of friends can influence your behavior. Most probably you think and behave how they think and behave.
So for you to improve your confidence, surround yourself only with people who motivate you to become more confident and make you feel confident
9. Read
People who read for pleasure:
- Have greater levels of self-esteem,
- Are less stressed,
- Can act better in tough situations.
โI am dying, Maximus. When a man sees his end, he wants to know there was some purpose to his life. How will the world speak my name in years to come? Will I be known as the philosopher? The warrior? The tyrant? Or will I be the emperor who gave Rome back her true self?โ
It was a cut from Ridley Scottโs 2000 epic historical film โGladiatorโ
The old man is Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor (161 to 180 AD) and a philosopher.
He was the last of the rulers known as the โFive Good Emperorsโ, and the last emperor of the golden age of the Roman empire.