I got a DM from a girl who said she had her sister have been abused by their father from the time they were 5 years old. The mother couldn't leave the father since she wasnt financially independent. Relatives too said child molester husband was more important than the kids.
TW.

I don't think any of us understand how terrible this is for the child and the mother because she literally has no way out. Imagine not being able to sleep throughout your childhood because your own father is sexually abusing you.
TW

Why are Indian parents in such a freaking hurry to marry off their daughters and pay a ransom dowry? Why do they not check who they are marrying their daughters off to?
If you are a woman, somehow hold on to your financial independence no matter what. That gives you the freedom to walk out of abuse. Manipulative people / families KNOW this so the first thing they will do is try take it away from you.

Do NOT Allow it.
TW
Our great Indian family honour system that protects the molester especially when he is a father and puts the safety of the woman / children at permanent risk makes it worse. It is SOO widespread that I don't even know what can be done to change / help this.
TW

How the heck does one protect a child from a molester father when the mother refuses or has no way out?

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13 Apr
This is something I have never understood. I get a LOT of messages like this from really young girls about their own mothers and grandmothers calling them sluts.

What’s with this behaviour? And why do daughters have to tolerate this crap of being called sluts by their parent?
Wear Nailpolish - Slut
Some nosy relative aunty / uncle says “oooh i saw her with this cousin” - OH Slut!
Any type of clothes WITH dupatta, slit and bra strap not showing - Slut.

I’m telling you. A lot of people should NEVER have been parents at all.
To women who feel upset when called a slut - I’d say don’t be. It is difficult but please don’t feel insulted even if your parent/s, crappy family do this to you.
Unfortunately responding with ‘Yeah So what?!’ Would result in manic physical abuse by the family.
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21 Sep 20
Thread.

Women and survivors in general lose when political parties and their supporters join in and politicise a sexual harassment case.

In October 2018 - When I named Mr Vairamuthu, 15 women after that named him. BJP supporters made it about ‘Payback for the Andal Issue.’
End of the day - I gained nothing. I got banned while superstars in Tamilnadu dance around with Mr Vairamuthu.

Let me also remind you that the SAME BJP supporters somehow had the exact opposite thing to say when MJ Akbar was named. MJA is still a member of BJP.
Here is an assignment. Every BJP supporter ‘standing’ for Payal Ghosh today has not said a WORD about Kuldeep Sengar. Kuldeep Sengar raped a minor and almost murdered off her entire support system. He was STILL a BJP MLA when BJP went to polls recently.
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7 Apr 20
April is Sexual Assault Awareness month. Learn how to be a better support system for survivors. It is NEVER the survivor’s fault. Their clothes, their attitude, their talent, their T Shirt, their absence or presence of a Dupatta, their wearing leggings is not an invitation.
If you know a survivor - dont be that person who says ‘Why didn’t you say this before?’.
Also don’t say ‘I would have used my slipper.’ Well good for you, but most can’t react that way. Read on ‘Responses to Stress’
Don’t say ‘If no one is supporting you maybe you’re lying.’
Worrying, thinking about assaulters’ family, kids, spouse, aged parents is NOT the survivor’s problem. If the assaulter didn’t care enough about their family while assaulting, the survivors don’t have to make it an additional burden IN ADDITION to healing from the trauma.
Read 10 tweets
26 Mar 20
Got to know today that celebrated poet Pablo Neruda raped his Tamil housekeeper when he was in Sri Lanka as a diplomat and wrote about it in his memoirs.

Source - Memoirs of Pablo Neruda.

instagram.com/p/B-MXDX1Hn2_/…
This story was shared by the page Brown History on Instagram. Pablo Neruda is a Nobel Prize Winner.

The thing is many ‘great’ men have described their rape of women as sexual exploits. One that is shared with other men over drinks and parties. While other men laughed along.
A version of that happens today when ‘machans’ gather and talk about how many or how ‘correct’ a ‘figure’. (Tamil) Which ‘figure’ is easy
If you don’t speak Tamil you wouldn’t understand it.
A woman is a ‘figure’ to ‘correct’.
Or a women is an object for ‘padeyadam’.
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12 Mar 20
@singersrinivas @raagamuffin Speaking about getting molested isn’t wrong
Saying I didnt get paid for 10 bloody concerts in the US when I needed the money after Subhashree *BLOCKED* my petitioner is NOT wrong. This isnt biting the hand that fed. It is asking the hand why I am NOT being fed when I am starving
@singersrinivas Should I elucidate on what happened to a particular musician who got taken on a concert tour by her on a B1 and he got deported? And she blamed it on him. He can never enter the US again. Poor man doesn’t even speak much english and he didn’t understand what the heck was going on
@singersrinivas Saying ‘I should focus on music’ while ‘mentors’ like you somehow obliquely ask me to shut up isn’t being supportive.

If being in music means having have to ignore sexual and financial exploitation and abuse appo enakku andha maadiri music ae vendam.
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27 Dec 19
I had also found the strength to tell Rahul and my In Laws only then. Thankfully my family is made of rockstars. Father in law asked me not to be scared and that I neednt go if I didn’t want to.
Mr Vairamuthu was apparently “tracking me with the help of ‘Intelligence’.”
Mr Vairamuthu claimed that Sri Kalaignar was angry with me because I had ‘delivered a speech on stage insulting him’ (which never happened) Mr Vairamuthu said he was trying to patch things up for my ‘good and safety’. I told 2 friends I will not name. I was asked not to be scared
I then called his office and said I am not scared. I finally found my voice then. Ever since I thankfully didn’t get forced to sing at any of his events.

He’d call to ask to meet me at his office, bring my resume so that he’d recommend me for the National Awards. Avoided too.
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