Arrogance and rudeness are not the same.
This excellent thread by @UnmodernM made me think, and opened a new paradigm for me.
So thought of adding my 2¢s...
(A short thread)
This excellent thread by @UnmodernM made me think, and opened a new paradigm for me.
So thought of adding my 2¢s...
(A short thread)
https://twitter.com/UnmodernM/status/1383296431709036555?s=19
Arrogance is a product of ego.
It comes from thinking yourself as better than others.
Unearned privilege can cause that ( think street racing sons of Chinese billionaires or king Joffrey).
They are intentionally rude to those who they perceive as low status.
It comes from thinking yourself as better than others.
Unearned privilege can cause that ( think street racing sons of Chinese billionaires or king Joffrey).
They are intentionally rude to those who they perceive as low status.
When their behaviour is rewarded, they demand some more.
When not rewarded, they turn petulant and demand that their entitlement be fed.
There is zero plus side to put up their behaviour.
Identify them, and then strengthen your boundaries to keep them out.
When not rewarded, they turn petulant and demand that their entitlement be fed.
There is zero plus side to put up their behaviour.
Identify them, and then strengthen your boundaries to keep them out.
Now comes the second group.
High value people who come across as rude.
These are successful people who have usually earned their place in the world.
(Think Winston Wolf from Pulp Fiction. Before him Jules is deferential where as Vincent acts like a child.)
High value people who come across as rude.
These are successful people who have usually earned their place in the world.
(Think Winston Wolf from Pulp Fiction. Before him Jules is deferential where as Vincent acts like a child.)
To them, the time spent in observing niceties, where there's no immediate benefit, is a waste.
It's not efficient use of time. And time is something that's of immense value to them.
Putting up with their "rudeness" is beneficial as they recognise and reward your efficiency.
It's not efficient use of time. And time is something that's of immense value to them.
Putting up with their "rudeness" is beneficial as they recognise and reward your efficiency.
The rule of thumb that @UnmodernM describes is a good one.
Feed them once.
If they turn out to be arrogant, phase them out.
And if they turn out to be high value, keep feeding them for growing a valuable connection.
Learning to differentiate them makes all the difference.
Feed them once.
If they turn out to be arrogant, phase them out.
And if they turn out to be high value, keep feeding them for growing a valuable connection.
Learning to differentiate them makes all the difference.
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