Something I dislike about ADHD is that so many of my mistakes feel the same: like blips, where I can't quite figure out how I didn't notice them at the time. But the consequences are HUGELY different. Figuring out how "big" a mistake is, and what my response should be is hard.
E.g. I often read emails and messages wrong, and reply to the wrong interpretation without realizing. Most of the time this is fine. Sometimes it has been very very bad. So now everytime I do it, I feel the same level of regret and panic, and struggle not to overapologise for it.
To me it makes perfect sense that many ADHDers also have anxiety. It's a shitty feeling to know even when you're careful, and really care about what you're doing, you're likely to just randomly drop the ball, and there's no way of knowing the fallout of that until you get there.
Anyway, I really wish society as a whole would stop associating small mistakes with carelessness. It genuinely does not matter how hard I try, or how many strategies I use, some things will slip through my net. And maybe I need to learn not to make that association about myself.
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