The thing about being raised in a quiverfull family, that people have a hard time understanding, is that you literally have no choices. Zero. None. And it’s an incredibly difficult process to create choices for yourself. Especially as a woman in that scenario.
No degree. Maybe a high school education. No job or limited work experience. I got my my drivers license and my first job in my mid 20’s. I have never been more terrified walking into a job interview to work retail. I was shaking. I didn’t know how to open a bank account or get
insurance or any of those adulting things. I had always been controlled by other people. It never occurred to me I could do things by myself. Or that I could have choices.
I was one of the lucky ones. I married my way out of my abuse which is most often a recipe for more abuse.
I was one of the lucky ones. I married my way out of my abuse which is most often a recipe for more abuse.
By sheer luck, I happened to marry a decent and kind person who saved me and then supported me as I saved myself. I am the exception. Many don’t make it out because it’s so incredibly hard.
Check in on your friends who come from quiverfull families. It’s been a rough few days.
Check in on your friends who come from quiverfull families. It’s been a rough few days.
Everything feels heavy and I’ve cried off and on. I don’t know why this particular case is hitting me so hard. But I see myself in anna duggar and so many like her and I just want to weep. I just want them all to make it out.
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