Thread by @ArmaniTalks

Life lesson:

Don't tell people more than they need to know.

There are 2 sides to this tweet

1. Not rambling
2. Knowing how to keep things lowkey

Speaking to someone about their passion is a fast way to build rapport

It's a social trick

When someone talks about a topic they enjoy, the conversation material presents itself

All you need to do is ask questions

However, let's say you are talking about a passion

What then?

'I don't get the question.'

Do you think others have the same passion as you?

'Sometimes, yes. But not always.'

Correct.

Sometimes, yes.

It's easy to get carried away

Just like talking about passions can be a social trick, it can also quickly become a social sin

Rambling about every little detail, droning on about the history & missing the body language of the rest of the group

This is just an example

An art of not telling people what they need to know comes down to spotting when the energy seems off

That's when a dialogue is being turned into a monologue

The next way to stay more lowkey is by being lowkey on purpose

That's harder than it seems

It's quick to open up faster to people when:

-you're lonely
-they are good looking
-social media likes gets to your head

Respect is given, then earned

Can easily be taken away when talking to someone disrespectful

On the contrary, trust is not always given, but always earned

Giving someone trust too fast causes betrayal at a rapid rate

Fantasy: 'I will trust more when I grow up!'

Reality: 'I trust in selection more when I grow up.'

The first happens rapidly

The latter happens over time

'Do people who backstab me always mean bad?'

Not always

Sometimes, their desire to move forward in respect to their own life, somehow temporarily bumped into yours

But other than that, it's not personal

Socially intelligent people know the art of saying a lot

Building trust

And rapport

Without dishing every little detail of their lives

Don't telling people more than they need to know doesn't mean to be overly secretive

It means to spot the context over the content

That's the key to social awareness

talking to every person the exact same is a fast way to be stiff

And a faster way to lose opportunities

Social IQ in a nutshell:

Go from seeing 'groups' -> 'individuals'

^understand that line, apply that line & social anxiety will melt

And charisma will skyrocket

Social awareness presents itself to the mind that sees individuals in a world that tries to force the mind to see generalizations

Generalizations work for a bird's eye view

But only having a bird's eye view with people can lead to crucial information being lost

One person at a time

And knowing when you are overtalking will be obvious as spotting an elephant chilling in a room filled with rabbits

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