I was invited by the Royal Military College in '15 to train their cadets on bystander intervention to end sexual violence & they harassed me the whole time, sent me threats when I reported it & it was a national news story that brought on more death threats.
I told you.
PROFOUNDLY uninterested in seeing people defend RMC period but particularly, defending the dudebro culture at RMC as "boys will be boys".
The year I was there, they had 3 sexual assaults & 2 suicides.
RMC needs to be demolished & rebuilt from scratch.
"Boys will be boys" is misandry.
It shows you have no respect for men, think they are all animals & that they cannot be tamed.
If you say "Boys will be boys" it's because you hate boys. Period.
I am SO sick of this disastrous merry-go-round of every few years, having to remind people that the military has a problem, having to endure another wave of threats from military people, having to flay my story again and again for people to listen.
Your ignorance is a choice.
I have an entire chapter in my book about it. Read it.
I have done NUMEROUS interviews, in both official languages. Google it.
Stop coming to my door, all aghast that RMC has a problem with sexual violence & toxic masculinity. I am well aware, thanks!
My book literally includes a copy of a detailed threat I received from a man who told me to kill myself & that hating me wasn't misogyny because I'm not a woman, I am human garbage.
He signed it with his full name & address & police refused to act.
I have gone over this, folks.
And I truly hate how arrogant this sounds but JUST GOOGLE ME.
Instead of asking me to explain to you for the umpteenth time how bad the Royal Military College is, just Google me. It's literally the first thing that comes up. (Sadly.)
Or buy my book! Do your damn research!
CORRECTION : Minor one but I actually went to RMC October 2014 but the story came out the spring of 2015 with the Justice Deschamps report.
I've been having to rehash that fateful day for 7 goddamn years. Je suis le tired.
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So excited to see so many of you with a vaccine appointment!
I got Pfizer. Almost exactly 5hrs later, I was hit with the most intense fatigue and brain fog so bad, it was hilarious. Ran a fever and chills that night. Then woke up feeling fine.
Give yourself 24hrs to recover!
Also, if you menstruate - BRACE YOURSELF. Your insides are going to revolt.
And by Brain Fog So Bad, I mean it took me 30 minutes to shower because I kept washing my hair and then forgetting I washed my hair, then losing my conditioner which was literally in my hand and then starting all over.
1 in 10 military women has been sexually assaulted on the job. That's a stat from 2015 *before Trudeau came into power*.
The partisanship on this issue is so profoundly pathetic and so blatantly NOT about supporting victims.
Justice Deschamps started digging into this issue in 2014 and released her report in the spring of 2015 where she was a "sexualized culture" and said if women reported every case of harassment at RMC, it would be all they do day in and day out.
I think of "Jane Doe Vs. Metropolitan Toronto Police" who has enjoyed the safety of a publication ban since the '80s. In that time, she has done incredible work for survivors, changed the legal system, etc.
I asked her recently & she says she never intends to lift it.
I "came forward" about being stalked by my abusive ex & have gotten many supportive messages but I've also gotten death threats, threats of legal action from his family, ostracized from my hometown, etc.
It's also one of the first things you learn about me in a Google search.
I wanna give a major shout-out to @AmbivalentlyYou today. I've had the pleasure of being able to hire her for 3 different projects & her work is unreal.
I also worked with her to develop a campaign informing women that despite the lockdown, services still exist in their community if they are experiencing violence.
She created incredible posters and colouring pages for us.
I just recently worked with her again to do outreach to rural francophone women living in Southwestern Ontario.
I have such respect for artists! All I said was "I need to let women in rural areas know they are not alone."