One of my earliest jobs was at a startup. It was a toxic work culture. And over years, I've seen much better workplaces, and now culture is key criteria for me for work. But what I've observed is, people tend to discount the toxicity because "work is challenging" 1/
In the early years, when you want to learn a lot, sure, it does help to be in those sort of "cutting edge" (self-certified) workplaces, on purely the work axis. But given a chance to start fresh again, I'd not want to be in such setups. It does invisible damage. 2/
And it normalizes the toxic culture in the name of "productivity" and "achievement". The key years of your life are wasted without personal development because there is just no time. Even taking a day off is scoffed at. Self-care is basically office parties/events. 3/
Of course, it all assumes that people have a choice, but that's orthogonal. Where you have a choice, choose wisely. If enough people do it consistently, it will make it harder to normalize and shrug off horrible bosses, and terrible cultures.
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Maybe I'm different, but I can't place quality of work over quality of the workplace. Give me shitty work in a good workplace. Life's too precious, and you only get one chance at it. My advice (and I loath to give advice, but ...) is: put it before work.
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About one in ten startups fail. Even those that succeed, many of the projects and products fail and are abandoned. Teams are let go or redistributed (if you're lucky). All that "achievements" and "productivity" goes down to /dev/null.
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And many of those "gajars" like stock options become empty virtual papers with no value. While you're left with bad work habits, horrible work-life balance, internalized bad culture (which you will propagate, believe me you), lost personal development opportunities.
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That's not to say don't join startups. Corporates also have similar problems in teams/groups/BUs. There are good and bad startups and established companies. Just that (bad) startups tend to make a philosophy out of their terrible culture, which can be seductive in short term.
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Be mindful of it, that's all. Make conscious decisions. There are always tradeoffs to be made. You don't have to continue to work in toxic workplaces a minute longer than you have to, however tautological it sounds.
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The right-wing misogyny on Twitter during Eid reminded me of an interaction I witnessed when I was about 10. Buckle up for an "insider" RSS story, kids ...
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I come from a family that had (I say had because my dad was too lazy to be associated with anything) a strong RSS connection. My grandfather was a shakha man. Most of his friends -- orthodox Maharashtrian brahmins -- were associated with RSS.
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This incident is from a time when grandmother's younger sister was visiting us. My grandmother and her sister were polar opposites. While GM was a karmath (orthodox to a T) person, who practised all the brahmincal ideas of "cleanliness" (yes, read it however you want to) ...
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People seem to have this vague notion of special scientific knowledge that's somehow a monopoly of a certain class/group of people. I suspect this comes from our centuries of religion centric outlook. We're so used to those structures, that we bring them to scientific inquiry. 1/
What is "scientific knowledge" is just what is independently verifiable knowledge based on current data. It can change. It can be partially or totally wrong. It presumes falsifiability -- it's a requirement. Anyone can add to it by following the rigorous methodology. 2/
And that is why I hate the word "allopathy". It seems like a closed system created by some guardians of the galaxy, but it's just meant to be "evidence-based medicine". If your magic-pathy medicine can pass through the process, it's "evidence-based" medicine.
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Disclaimer: I've no formal training in psychology/psychiatry. This is my very personal take. So feel free to take whatever you want, and leave whatever you don't want. 1/2
Earlier this month I faced grief for the first time in a very personal sense when I lost my father to #COVID19. I was close to my grandparents, but it was different with them. And all other deaths I've had to mourn were not as directly impacting as my father's. 2/
I had read some of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's Notes on Grief, last year when it came out in The Newyorker. Would highly recommend reading it (although I've not finished it, but plan to) newyorker.com/culture/person… 3/
A younger colleague's husband (38yo, healthy, active, with no medical history, non-smoker/non-drinker) passed away of COVID. She had called up yesterday to check with doctors in my circle about his prognosis. In the morning, he had a cardiac arrest after his BP went down. 1/
I feel helpless, sad, and insanely angry -- not even sure at who anymore. Does it even matter? We're failing as a society because we, as a group, don't care enough. When this ends, and those of us who make it through, would we even change? Would we start caring? 2/
I don't have high hopes. It's each on their own. Countries, states, cities, families, down to you and I. We can't wear masks for other people's safety. We can't defer marriages, can't refuse to celebrate religious festivals at scale, can't stop election rallies. 3/
Sad Update: After fighting COVID and other complications, my dad passed away peacefully yesterday afternoon. A man who loved people had to die with strangers, away from his loved ones. The last we talked to him was when he was taken to COVID ward. #COVID19#pune
He had never stayed in the hospital and never been alone his whole life. And we were worried how he will feel. But his condition was such that he didn't really understand it (and I hope he never did). The last time we "saw" him alive was when he was sleeping in the ICU ...
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and a kind soul who was there to take test samples called us on video. He was sleeping and did not respond when we called his name. This is the worst part of this pandemic -- it denies you closure. I got a glimpse of him as he was loaded into the hearse.
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This is an intentionally scary thread about #COVID19. I don't want to start it with "I don't mean to scare you". Because, frankly, I do. We ALL need to be scared. Especially in Pune. We've gone immune to the numbers, but maybe this personal anecdotal thread will help 1/
My father had some non-typical symptoms and suspecting other conditions, we took him to Deenanath Mangeshkar Hospital ER and they administered a RAT (rapid test) which came positive. While we were waiting for investigations in the ER, we kept hearing of other positive cases. 2/
DMS had already told us that if it was non-COVID case, he'd get a shared room (no private rooms were available even for non-COVID patients), but otherwise we may have to look for COVID bed somewhere else. When the test came positive, they said they'll try to find bed for him 3/