Waiting for the world to change is an fools errand. It will change, but your Interaction with it is exceptionally short and it has a momentum you can’t control.
So here are a couple of things that you can do it make it better:
1. Provide people with the same choices you want to have: who to vote for, how to believe, alternative perceptions , counter experiences, who they love and who they are.
2. Don’t insist that everyone agree, support or endorse your choices. Be confident in them and create a world that reflects them.
But don’t believe they are right for everyone else.
3. Fight for the life and agency of every human being. From the moment we are conceived until we draw our last breath, we matter. Not a single one of us is expendable. To fight for life, and agency for everyone is justice.
4. Acknowledge that choices have consequences and accept their impact on our own lives. In every situation, we STILL have the power to choose our response, and it will impact our future.
5. Understand that there will always be pain and suffering, and take responsibility for sharing that burden with those around you. Not the government. You.
Be kind, not nice. See others. Acknowledge others and sacrifice for others. Not because you have to, but because you can.
Police your campsite. Vow to leave this world a little better, cleaner, more beautiful because you were here.
These are not things that come to us easily. We are selfish, lazy, narcissistic and insistent on our own way. But we don’t have to be. That’s just the path of least resistance.
Two final thoughts. If you haven’t had a chance to read any Viktor Frankl, do so. He elevates our humanity. He urges us to escape our transactional nature, journey towards self awareness and embrace who we can be despite circumstance.
And finally, one of the most important CS Lewis principles: Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself, less.
Humans the only creatures on earth with the ability to live aspirationally. We have so much. I am grateful, and I will do whatever I can to not simply waste it all trying to change everyone else.
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“In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there's something stronger – something better, pushing right back.” —Camus
For the last sixty years, we have been lulled into such a false sense of security. We are victims of only our own self denial. The world does. It change. Human nature does not change. It is brutal and wild.
“Never again” we march forward thinking we are somehow wiser, stronger
And worst of all smarter than our forefathers.
We are not. We know more, but our wisdom is still lacking and our ability to wrangle things far outside our control minimal.
We do not command land or sea, the heavens or the earth.
I want to gently observe a few things about the drama that has overwhelmed the twitter community I run in for the last week. Five little bodies lay barely cold next to the trash bin and people have been brawling all over the driveway. So many have been hurt in the fallout.
So I want to address a few things. This kind of environment is a particularly addicting place. We are freed from ourselves in a way that no other place can. Gone are the obvious challenges and worries, looks and health, and economics responsibilities of our daily lives.
Here we are a reflection of what we want to be. Beautiful, witty, exciting, smart, the list goes on. We get to portray ourselves exactly the way we want others to see us. Surprisingly also unmasks our greatest frailties. I am not an exception to this and neither are you.
For four years, we have used the word elite to mean establishment. In function they are the same. But for the establishment the words are not. Therefore, we need to alter the message in a way they can hear it. This election is between two anti establishment candidates.
Nothing says establishment more clearly than totally giving up your principles, no matter how “deeply held”,’ and jumping the aisle to support a nice person with completely different policies.
This is a clear betrayal of the citizenry by the establishment. It’s pitched as bipartisanship. But let’s break that down for a minute. Citizens do not want bipartisanship at OUR expense. We want it in the search for solutions. But over my lifetime that has become corruption.
I’ll be honest. I didn’t truly understand how bad off our society is until I experienced that airline seat discussion.
The idea that acting out like a two year old—because something that is within the rules but uncomfortable—is acceptable, excusable behavior is shocking to me.
The truth is that is we can’t agree on basic rules of decency, even if that means we sometimes get the less comfortable end of the situation, society completely falls apart.
Rules can’t make everything perfect for everyone. But we respect them because the grease the wheels of
a civil society.
What surprises me even more is the lack of willingness to justify our own behavior based on the assumption that every other person in the world is a jerk.
A decorum observation, thread: you don’t have to like the President’s crassness and tone to understand why Nancy’s speech ripping is perceived as different than his twitter baiting. It’s also an absolute pillar of communication. Let me explain.
President Trump, like it or not, has communicated one thing clearly and unequivocally. It started in the last election. Hillary was going around asking people to use the slogan “I’m with her.” Candidate Trump saw that, instinctively knew it was against the American grain and took
The opposite position. His message was “I’m with YOU!” He will attack other politicians, the press, entertainers. Bureaucrats. But he seems to be careful to never attack Americans themselves. Voters of any stripe are not called dumb or deplorable. Or racist or sexist.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the food scolds and their banning of the dollar store.
If you hate the dollar store, you’ve never struggled. Let me explain.
In 2007, my husband and I were laid off on the same day. The next few months were a brutal struggle.
We are better...
...people for it. What we learned will be with is always.
One of the FIRST things you learn when you have no income is that one of the few things that provides pleasure in your life is food.
When everything is a struggle, you look forward to Kraft Mac and Cheese...
Entertainment, clothing, home goods, utilities, all of those things become luxuries and every day is emotionally exhausting. You use enormous amounts of energy just for survival.