Thread by @QueerlyAutistic

I don't think that Ben's concerns are irrational.

His husband is lying to him about going to work to cover spending time with his ex (which Ben has NEVER had an issue with) and now he's found an engagement ring in Callum's bag.

Without context, what would you think? #Ballum

Not only is he lying about going to work, but he's inventing additional shifts to, it seems, get out of spending time with Ben in favour of spending time with Whitney.

WE know he's got the wrong idea, but this isn't irrational insecurity or paranoia.

We may have to face the facts that what Callum is doing is not very nice or fair in regards to Ben. He's not treating his husband well right now.

And yes, WE absolutely understand what he's going through and why he's doing it, but Ben DOESN'T because CALLUM HASN'T TOLD HIM.

I don't believe that many of us would react very differently given the same information that Ben has. Because how else would you interpret what he currently knows?

It's not purely about insecurity, and it's not jealousy or paranoia, and I wish we'd stop saying it was.

We felt for Callum during the 'WHAT ABOUT ME?' era, so we should be doing the same with Ben. Because he's trying his best, and this situation is not his fault. He's being hurt, badly, by Callum crumbling and shutting him out, just as Callum was hurt by Ben doing the same.

What we aren't going to do is start comparing traumas and deciding that Callum's current trauma makes it more okay for him to treat Ben badly than it was for Ben to do the same last year, because ranking diagnosed combat PTSD as 'more serious' is an absolute fucking nope.

I'm pretty certain we're heading for our reverse 'WHAT ABOUT ME?' moment of this storyline, and the beauty of it is that neither of them are totally wrong or totally right, and we, as an audience, can easily understand the situation and pain that both are in. Let's not lose that.