We have a really serious problem in queer spaces with blaming queer people who identify differently to us for the violence and bigotry enacted by allocishets.

Blaming bi folk, bi/pan lesbians, people using neopronouns etc. for oppression just lets allocishets off the hook.
Try funnelling your anger and frustration towards the people actively harming you, rather than people in your community who happen to have a different experience to you.
If every single bi/pan lesbian stopped identifying that way, allocishet men would STILL abuse lesbians and try to 'turn them straight'.

If neopronouns disappeared tomorrow, cis people would STILL refuse to take trans people seriously.

Your blame is misdirected.
Stop infantilising allocishet people and handling them with kid gloves. Stop acting like they only perpetuate bigotry because they're poor little things who are confused by the nasty weird queer people.

Blaming your fellow queers is a fucking cop out and you know it.
Spoilers: it doesn't matter how hard you bully people who use neopronouns, allocishets aren't going to let you sit with them.

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