EQ is one of the most important traits I look for in people.
But for many, it's seen as less valuable than IQ.
This is not true.
Here's the story of how I learned the importance of EQ, the hard way in Miami π
But for many, it's seen as less valuable than IQ.
This is not true.
Here's the story of how I learned the importance of EQ, the hard way in Miami π
If you've watched me play, you know I can be a lot of in your face.
I'm a very direct person by nature.
My job is entirely about imposing my will on others.
So that bleeds into other aspects of my business.
I'm a very direct person by nature.
My job is entirely about imposing my will on others.
So that bleeds into other aspects of my business.
For a long time in my career, I was always just saying what I wanted to say.
Never thinking about how I delivered the message.
Everything changed when I got to Miami π΄
Never thinking about how I delivered the message.
Everything changed when I got to Miami π΄
I was in a strong, influential position.
So I was just making my opinion known, regardless of how it impacted others.
2 years in, I realized this attitude was:
π Creating divisions on the team
π¨ Pushing people away
π Putting me in a negative headspace
So I was just making my opinion known, regardless of how it impacted others.
2 years in, I realized this attitude was:
π Creating divisions on the team
π¨ Pushing people away
π Putting me in a negative headspace
Then along came our new coach.
I disagreed with everything he wanted to do.
But...nothing I said was being heard. I couldn't get the support I wanted.
I realized it was because I had 0 tact.
If you're not careful about how you do things, you end up being the bad guy.
I disagreed with everything he wanted to do.
But...nothing I said was being heard. I couldn't get the support I wanted.
I realized it was because I had 0 tact.
If you're not careful about how you do things, you end up being the bad guy.
So what did I start doing that I still do today?
1. I listened way more than I talked
2. I paid attention to HOW I interacted with people
3. I observed others reactions and adjusted as needed
4. I chose my words carefully to be more empathetic
1. I listened way more than I talked
2. I paid attention to HOW I interacted with people
3. I observed others reactions and adjusted as needed
4. I chose my words carefully to be more empathetic
It was a total 180.
There was less arguing & more agreements.
I turned my influence on the team into impact.
But most importantly, I felt better about myself and my mood improved.
There was less arguing & more agreements.
I turned my influence on the team into impact.
But most importantly, I felt better about myself and my mood improved.
Since then, I've never forgotten how much EQ matters.
In business and life, being sensitive to others always brings better results.
Don't just think about what you want.
Think about what others want.
In business and life, being sensitive to others always brings better results.
Don't just think about what you want.
Think about what others want.
TAKEAWAYS:
π Listening > talking (we have 2 ears, 1 mouth)
π Observe other's reactions to you closely
π Asses yourself and be self aware, always improve
π§ Think before speaking (esp. in disagreements)
I promise you'll see way better outcomes in your relationships.
π Listening > talking (we have 2 ears, 1 mouth)
π Observe other's reactions to you closely
π Asses yourself and be self aware, always improve
π§ Think before speaking (esp. in disagreements)
I promise you'll see way better outcomes in your relationships.
If you want to learn more about emotional intelligence, check out this @sweatystartup thread.
https://twitter.com/sweatystartup/status/1409115824267345929?s=20
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