one of the most important skills you can learn as a child is how to take risks, especially socially. childhood is the time to experiment with trying things when the stakes are low, learning to deal with rejection and disappointment, and honing social skills for life.
growing up with anxious parents makes this much more challenging. i’m curious how much of my struggles with self image can be traced back to my mother’s own risk aversion and the way she projected it onto me.
for instance when i was a kid i wasn’t allowed to learn how to ride a bike or play sports. she’d either openly forbid me or try to convince me i might get hurt and embarrass myself. the threat of embarrassment was a frequent boogeyman used to keep me in line.
People have asked for the story here. I don’t think it’s super interesting but what the hell. I met her on OKC right before the pandemic started. She apparently decided we were going to be boyfriend and girlfriend after my first message to her, which doesn’t seem very normal.
Our first date went really well! I took her out for shabu-shabu. When she walked up I was like oh no she’s much too pretty to be on a date with me, but I made her laugh and the conversation was very easy, and she asked for another date.
The second date was better than the first. There was one weird moment where she claimed my dermatologist was trying to give me skin cancer to make more money, but I brushed my concerns aside because she’s gorgeous and I’m male.
Standing in a hotel room with a limo driver and a Mexican actor listening to a rich guy with his robe wide open rant about how the FBI and CIA are trying to kill him because he’s come up with a solution to end poverty.
He gave me his laptop and told me to guard it with my life because it was the laptop that changed the world and it would be in the Smithsonian someday. I tossed it in the dumpster on the way out.
He never revealed what his plan to end poverty was. He just bought three yellow H2s, had the Mexican actor drive some kids whose mom had died of cancer around to look at Christmas lights, then got institutionalized.
Artemisia Gentileschi is one of the most underrated Baroque painters. She's become more well known the last ten or so years, but I appreciate her work more than some of her more famous contemporaries like Caravaggio because she breathes life into her female subjects.
When I look at a lot of paintings of the time, the women in paintings feel like beautiful objects d'art, not people. The real expression and complexity is reserved for the men at the center of paintings. Not so with Artemeisa.
For instance her depiction of Judith Beheading Holofernes, one of the most painted scenes in art, is easily my favorite. There's this grim, dispassionate resolve in the face of Judith and her maid as they dispatch their would be invader. Fukkin slaps.
Tasers shouldn’t be used as compliance tools. They’re not non-lethal, they’re less lethal. People still die from their application and that’s without considering cases where cops “grab the wrong gun”, yet cops continue to blast away with them with impunity.
As if 2012 Amnesty International had tracked 500 deaths after taser applications since 2001. In another report they found 90% of the time when a taser was deployed the person shocked was unarmed. amnestyusa.org/press-releases…
Our police are militarized and the thin blue line mentality that they’re the last line of defense between civilization and barbarism is an inextricable part of cop culture. They operate like an invading force, terrified of many of the people they’re supposed to be serving.
A nearly 80 year old Donald Tump in the presidential debates in 2024, slumped over on his stool looking like an overstuffed haggis marinated in turmeric, rambling about Hillary Clinton killing Vince Foster.
“You know that’s a very interesting question, Tim.”
“My name is Chris, Mr. President. And I didn’t ask you a question.”
“Thank you, Tim. I appreciate that.” *stares into the distance horrified* “I still hear his voice, Tim. Can you hear it?”
“Mr. President, if we can move on. Polling shows that climate change is a key concern for the public, how do you propose to address it.”
“Great question, Tom.”
“Chris.”
“Exactly. Change concerns me too, ok. How does a woman change over night, Dom?”