Thread by @JoshuaTai0427

'How to win friends and influence people' by Dale Carnegie has been widely considered as the Bible of making friends and communicating. Here is a thread on some of the lessons i have learnt from the book.

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1. Don't blame others but try to understand others. Understanding yields compassion, which is far more beneficial and meaningful than blame.

2. Be humble and praise others. The only way to get others to listen to you is to praise others sincerely. Don't be quick to showing off yourself, you should look at others' merits instead.

3. Step into other's shoes and talk about what others are thinking and wanting instead of always talking about your own needs and wants. People 'care' about their own needs and wants the most, so tackle those first instead of your own ones!

4. If you want others to like you, establish a friendship, or asks a favour from others, remember, use a sincere heart to care about others first!

5. Always keep a sincere smile on your face so that when others see you, they can feel your positive vibes and they themselves can be happier and smile back at you too!

6. Remember the name of others. This will directly allow others to feel that he or she is sincerely valued. Sometimes, its hard to remember the name of all people but put some effort in! By doing so, others will remember you too!

7. People want others to listen to them to talk about what they are interested in, therefore, be a good listener and encourage them to talk about themselves! You will be surprise how long the conversation can go just by listening to others' interest!

8. Communication is to talk about what others are interested in. If you spend some effort to really listen to what others are interested in, this will greatly enhance what others think about you!

9. One of the deepest wants of a human being, is to get praise from others. Sincerely praise others often, at what they are good at or care about, so that they will feel that they are valuable!

10. There are no winners in a debate. Winning a debate would not win you a good impression from others. Don't focus on how can I win the debate, focus on how can i avoid the debate instead.

11. Don't try to prove that others are wrong, no one likes to be proven wrong, especially directly at their face and in front of other people. Respect others' opinions instead.

12. Have the courage to say I am wrong when you are wrong. More often or not, admitting that you are wrong, can lower the guard of others, avoid a debate for you, and solve a problem much easier than defending yourself.

13. Be kind and compassionate to others, especially if you are having a disagreement with others. Being tough and mean would not solve you any problem, being kind and compassionate will help you find a common solution.

14. Try to make others say 'yes' instead of 'no'. Frame your questions so that others will answer with yes instead of no, this will bring of more positivity rather than negativity even if you are having a hard conversation.

15. Allow and encourage others to speak more, because everyone will feel more comfortable to talk about what they are great at or what they care about.

16. See the world in the lens of others. Put yourself in the position of others and think, what would i do if I am at his or her position? Do this often and sincerely.

17. Have compassion to others' thoughts and needs. If you want others to agree with you, having compassion and thinking what others really feel, need and want, is always a great first step.

18. If you don't know anything about another person, assume that he or she is a good person and never think that he or she is a bad person until proven otherwise.

19. If you want others to do something, especially if you are an employer, inspire and light up the competitiveness in their heart, instead of commanding them.

20. If you want to say something bad about others, be sure to compliment and praise them sincerely first. Your compliments will act as anesthetic, easing the pain of others when you later say something that you want them to improve on.

21. The effective way to point out the mistakes of others is to allow others to see their mistakes themselves, but through an indirect and euphemistic way, instead of a direct and offensive way.

22. Be sure to admit your own mistakes before you say something about others' mistakes. This is especially important if you want to be a great leader.

23. Asks questions instead of commanding others.

24. Save the 'face' of others whenever you can, don't embarrass others when you do not need to do so.

25. Support others whenever you can, instead of criticising others. Sincerely praise others when they are making a small improvement and do not criticise others when they make a small mistake.

Thank you for reading this thread. I hope you have learnt a thing or two about communication and influencing others. Remember to have compassion to others, praise others often, and try to always try to understand where others are coming from!

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