Things to look for in healthy friendships (short thread)

When I wrote about what healthy relationships, I mentioned that friendship is the CORE component. Too many of us waste our time on unhealthy friendships because many of us grow up not knowing what "healthy" is..(1/8)
Until I formed healthy adult friendships, I didn't realize what one looks like. What my close friends have in common, are kindness, intelligence + trustworthiness. Finding a good friend feels a lot like finding love for many reasons, because they're practically the same (2/8)
1. Find someone who supports you when you're on track + calls you out on ill-informed decisions - not every decision we make is in our best interest. Sometimes we lack perspective. Find someone who isn't afraid to tell you where you're wrong - THAT is in your best interest (3/8)
2. Seek somebody who respects your privacy - we've all had our fair share of friends who don't mind washing our dirty laundry in public. Why would you want a friend who doesn't RESPECT the private details of your life, when you can have plenty who do? 4/8
3. Find someone you can learn something from everyday - learning is an exciting+enriching experience. When we discover/learn something, the surprise stimulates our brain to release Dopamine-the pleasure hormone. Not only does it feel good to learn but also widens perspective! 5/8
4. Make friends with people who lift you higher- People who only stick around ONLY when good times roll? NOT true friends! Be with those who are with you through good times and bad. Even when you're in the dumps. When you go through a shitty divorce/breakup/lose your job 6/8
5. Find someone who can admit that they are wrong - IF you are grown up enough to admit to your mistakes and make amends, find friends who can do the same! There's too little time to waste on people who can't.

I've written this post solely because I've been in... 7/8
friendships that haven't served me until I worked on finding friendships that have been with me through thick and thin. The struggle is real. I've understood with time that good friends love us genuinely, know us inside out and are unafraid to tell us the truth. 8/8

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Things to look for in a potential relationship (short thread)

In my early 20s, I went on two dates with a guy my friends set me up with. He was a doctor too. Charming, funny, intelligent. Our conversations went well until I learned that he shames addicts (1/8)
He described them as "lazy and useless". I was taken aback, because our medical career exposes us to many people who are addicts - to alcohol, drugs, behaviors, lifestyles and here was someone who wouldn't empathize! (2/8)
I learned that it's important to:
A) Find someone who understands
the universal human struggle and doesn't judge others' behaviors. If they are judge others they likely will judge themselves+you.

B) Find someone who is willing to have uncomfortable conversations with you -
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