One thing thing that I clarified for myself today, in doing "romantic-goal strategy", is the difference between delineating what kind of _partner_ I want vs. what kind of _partnership_ I want.
Focusing on the kind of partnership I want feels healthier.
Focusing on the kind of partnership I want feels healthier.
It's probably more effective, in that I can lay out the target and then let the other person figure out if they want to aim for it, and if so, HOW they want to do that.
I want to be clear about the goal, and not lose track of what I want and care about, but I don't want to be rigid in my assumptions about the form that a solution has to take.
But also, I think that focusing on the kind of partnership is more spiritually sound?
I think thinking in terms of the kind of partner that I want was doing slight abrasive damage to my soul. Part of me now feels more relaxed and open.
I think thinking in terms of the kind of partner that I want was doing slight abrasive damage to my soul. Part of me now feels more relaxed and open.
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I'm not entirely sure what cognitive sequence lead me to that distinction, but I think it might have been (in part) downstream of editing my current date-me page (elityre.com/date.html).
This section felt kind of grammatically weird to me. And I think it was because I was sort of switching back and forth between talking about the the kind of relationship and the kind of person. 
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