a recurring theme in several conversations I've had recently is about how people seem to simultaneously overrate and underrate founders, artists, creatives, etc
and I found myself thinking, people overestimate the social posture(s), and underestimate the raw volume of work
in my experience + conversations with other writers: you have to write about a million words to get to a point where other people consistently find your writing compelling. maybe you can get by with less if you're judicious in your study. still. it's a lot of writing. 10+ years
some kanye fans think taylor sucks
some taylor fans think kanye sucks
both kanye and taylor are objectively (or "intersubjectively", whatever) top-tier world-class talents, and they've both spend far more time working on their crafts than 95% of people can even begin to fathom
and here's the thing
people who've never put in 10 years into a craft, and haven't bothered trying to conceive of what that might be like, can't understand why successful people are successful
and they start looking for explanations, looking for flaws in the social aspects
thing is, practically everybody is socially imperfect. we are human
and when people become successful, they get put under more scrutiny. pressure. it's an extreme sport, like lifting a lot of weight. it's easier for a mistake or slipup to cause injury or insult
I'm *not* saying everyone's social imperfections are equivalent. there's a whole spectrum. some people are
annoying in little ways under specific contexts. some people are lovely angels. some people are vindictive, cruel, hateful. a lifetime's worth of variation to understand
I'm also not saying that ~everyone~ who is successful in some traditional sense necessarily worked for that success, earned their way, etc. there are ways to lie, cheat, scam, exploit, etc your way up. history is full of examples of complicated figures who did both good and bad
but the thing that clarifies something for me is, I think I understand a certain class of criticism better now, which is ~almost~ the equivalent of wanting to see the virus's manager. it's less obviously ridiculous, but it's similar. it's choosing to dimiss or ignore the work
you can do the work too! the pathways to greatness are accessible to you as well. Akira Kurosawa said "all it takes to be a screenwriter is a pencil and some paper". today almost everyone has a smartphone, almost anybody can make films. certainly anybody on twitter
which brings me back to
don't waste your precious time and energy criticizing people
demonstrate what excellence looks like
focus your time and energy on what you want to see more of
I haven’t slept all night so I’m slightly deranged and I feel like I have a bit more yelling energy left in the tank so here are some bleary-eyed, fuck-if-its-uncouth tweets. Insert your own caveats or ignore. Fuck it I don’t care:
if you don’t like something about your life you can (often) change it
if you can’t easily change the thing itself overnight, you can “work the problem”. prison breaks are possible, you just have to do the planning, study the guards movements, etc
I don't think it's currently realistic for me to expect me to make say, $100m or more anytime soon
but I do think I will go from my current condition of "hm we can't quite afford to renovate our flat" (low-ish 5-fig expense) to prob having ~$1m to allocate, in under 10yrs
to lay my cards out in the open, I intend to spend most of all of that $ incentivizing creators, artists, public intellectuals, people who I think are helping to make a better public commons globally
I can't speak on behalf of my wife, but I believe she finds this (me having an abundance mindset when I don't have much $ yet) both irresistible and infuriating
noticed something interesting, obvious-in-retrospect via comments on tiktok
a conventionally attractive girl will get more criticisms for her less-than-stellar dancing (from other girls), compared to a more plain/average-looking girl who's equally mediocre at dancing
a sort of reverse-metaphor thought: being hot is like being a high-follower account. (some?) people feel more comfortable being harshly critical towards you, in part because they assume that you surely deal with abuse all the time already anyway, ie "eh, they can handle it"
it also influences people's assumptions of the person's intent
a hot girl dancing poorly is likelier to be assumed to be "showing off her looks", rather than trying to learn to enjoy dance
this is actually really cruel if you think about it
I think most people experience obsession as a sort of brief burst of manic intensity
the much more interesting class of obsession is the one where you casually follow up every week for 20 years
whenever I talk about obsession I almost always mean the latter. i'm obsessed about words and I will continue to tinker with words for the remainder of my lifetime
I like music, and I will likely noodle on a guitar happily for the rest of my life, and enjoy learning and growing etc, but I'm not obsessed with music the way Hendrix was
I bet if Hendrix were alive today, he would still be practicing the guitar
periodic reminder (more for myself than for you) that I tweet for 0.1% outliers in optimism, thoughtfulness, creativity, kindness, competence, ambition, drive, curiosity.
all are welcome to read and hang out, but I won't dilute my writing trying to be "more accessible"