1. "I think my life is boring. My marriage doesn't excite me. We don't even 'vibe' like before. I don't love you anymore. The fire is all gone."
Most times, what you call boring is the normal nature of life. What you call mundane is peace surrounding you.
2. And if you find that complacency has entered the relationship and you're beginning to take each other for granted, do something about it. And that something involves communication and reviving the fire. Not seeking for what is not lost out there.
3. The real 'ise esu' is when this period comes in your relationship and you are then tested with someone around you that looks like what you're missing in your relationship. That 20% you think is lacking. The real 'ise esu' is when you allow that handshake to pass the elbow.
4. And it can happen to anyone if you're not watching closely. Don't say, "it can never be me." You'll be shocked.
So before you say your life is boring and your partner is not exciting you anymore..are you sure it is not just the normal cycle of life you're passing through?
5. Have you communicated with your partner? Have you tried to revive that fire?
Don't be in the group of, "Don't know what you've got till it's gone." Comes with deep regrets.
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1. Monday morning 'sermon'
I was talking to my aburo yesterday and I said something with a sexual undertone. She was like, "ha, Dr. Gold!!😳😳"
I was like, "dakun, do you think these two kids were manna from heaven? God no go shame us fa aburo. All these things are important😁"
2. Which brings me to the question for the week especially for my Muslim sisters. I hope you know that except it is expressly forbidden, your bodies are yours to explore as you like? It is part of spirituality to please yourselves. Infact, you are doing the Lord's work
3. when you do everything pleasurable and not haram with your spouse.
And to the brothers...sister wa is not porcelain. She's not fragile even though she's dainty. Ask what she wants and likes. Tell her what you want, and go on to "bend it like Beckham" for yourselves.
1. Sometimes, ask your spouse these questions with an open non-judgmental mind without being defensive. And listen. Not to respond or find faults but listen with a mind that wants to do better.
"How can I make my relationship with you better?"
2. "Is there anything I can do to improve our relationship at my end?"
"Do I make you happy?"
"Am I holding my end of the relationship well?"
"Is there something I am doing that you'd like me to stop?"
Don't just assume. Ask. You may be surprised at the answers.
3. Sometimes, life gets to us and we forget the most important people in our life and complacency enters the equation. We then start to take our relationships for granted. Before you know it, you're losing each other gradually and becoming flatmates in the relationship.
1. A jurawalo, tìjàkadí kó. This loosely translates that there are people who have more power and clout because of either their pedigree or position. Stop fighting it and stop deceiving yourself. It doesn't mean they're better than you as humans.
2. It is just what it is that they can open doors that you cannot. Sometimes, life then brings you close to some of these powerful people where you would have gained a lot or that may have helped you to advance in life.
3. Some don't recognize such advantage or access or even worse still, they mess it all up. Either with youthful exuberance or sheer silliness. Such opportunities don't come often. If these people have brought you close and are also kind to you,
Medical students, residents and infact anyone that would love a good mentoring....please watch this interview from the first female urologist in Nigeria.
Executive Discourse | Dr. Abimbola Ayodeji Abolarinwa | NTA via @YouTube
I am happy to have her on board as one of the 8 contributors in my soon to be released book. I have 9 excellent bonus chapters in my book by doctors making strides home and abroad. You don't have to know people personally to learn from them. You can read from them or about them
I am so excited about the book "Medi-thrive"
Anticipate!
Coming your way soon.
Yorubas say, ''abeere ona kii sina." (The person that asks for directions will not get missing).
Not about asking for directions from anyone, it is by asking those who know & are willing to show you.
1. This advice is for parents and intending parents trying to do right by their children or who intend to do right by their children. Disclaimer - I am not a parenting coach. Just a parent trying to do right by her children and the society at large.
2. In a world filled with 'anyhowness' that keeps rising by the day - the best thing you can do for yourself is to be deliberate and intentional about raising your children from the very start. Especially when they're still young. When they're easily malleable.
3. When those teenage hormones are not roaring yet.
Down to the kind of friends they play with in school. Be observant. My son said some words recently and I immediately knew he was moving with someone that was the antithesis of what I wanted him to be.