Oh hey look a social media influencer who wants to ride her husband's supposed/imaginary porn addiction to TikTok stardom — thinking this guy might have a public humiliation kink and he's playing a game of four-dimensional kink chess against his wife?
You are not enough. No one is. Even if you're successfully and effortlessly monogamous, even if you two never watch porn, pretending you're enough for your partner or that they're enough for you places an unnecessary strain on a relationship.
The relationship is hostage to a lie. So much healthier to release each other from that pretense. Doesn't mean you have to open up the R and/or watch all the porn. Just means you don't have to pretend.
And not having to pretend frees you to get some of your needs elsewhere—emotional and social needs, not necessarily sexual ones (but can include those)—without having to feel like you're being failed or that your failing or that your relationship is deficient or broken or doomed.
Back to the videos. Crazy watching a woman try to get famous by pimping out her husband and his porn addiction like this.
Anyway, I think we should JO to this one and then get on with our day.
Glad Anita lived long enough to not get invited to her gay granddaughter's wedding.
I was 12 years old when Bryant waged her campaign against gay teachers and called gay people pedophiles. My mom thought she was wrong, my dad thought she was right. They argued about it in the car with their closeted gay kid listening in the backseat.
We talk a lot about queer kids being bullied by their peers, by their classmates. But for queer kids with with homophobic or transphobic parents... the worst bullies they encounter are at home. For many queers kids school is a refuge from the bullies at home.
School is where some queer kids can let their guards down—even if just for a moment. They can find other queer kids to connect with. At school they don't have to police every gesture or inflection at all times. They can risk asking someone to use the right pronoun.
What North Carolina Republicans are proposing here is to take that one potentially safe place away from queer kids with homophobic/transphobic parents at home—sometimes violently hateful parents. nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-ou…
I want to say, "I challenge anyone to listen to this interview @jessesingal did with youth-gender clinician Dr. Erica Anderson and tell me he's transphobic," but I know people will continue to insist he's transphobic. But he isn't.
I went through this myself a decade ago—people insisting I was transphobic. I was assaulted by people who insisted I was transphobic. People who weirdly invested in me being transphobic. It was an article of faith. I'm not.
I haven't said anything about the long & dishonest campaign against @jessesingal because I didn't think it would help. It would be dismissed as one transphobe coming to the defense of another and quite possibly make things worse for Jesse and renew the accusations against me.
Weird that Chris Pine and Wonder Woman never thought, hey, where'd that other guy's soul go? The guy whose body Chris Pine was in? If it was me—if I was Chris Pine—I would've worried about where he went and whether I was inconveniencing him.
And Wonder Woman fucked Steve when she was in that other dude's body. And then she ran into that other dude near the end and smiled like, "I fucked you but you don't know because you were basically unconscious at the time since your body was possessed by my dead lover's soul."
If Anthony Fauci isn't allowed to do his job... what good is keeping it? It's time for him to resign and give a speech —in prime time—about what we need to do and why we're not doing it and the price we're paying for not doing it.
An argument could be made—an argument was made—for Fauci to stay in place and work around Trump. That's no longer possible. He's been silenced and sidelined. By failing to resign in protest Fauci has made himself complicit in the Trump administration's failures
and he is contributing to the spread of this plague and helping to bring about the deaths of thousands of Americans. It's obscene.
Old enough to remember when rightwing Christian assholes accused gay men who were going to gay bars despite AIDS of being reckless, irresponsible, and immoral because we might get ourselves sick.
Now rightwing Christian assholes—some of the same ones—are insisting everyone has to go back to bars, restaurants, gyms, churches, etc., even though you might get yourself and everyone you know sick.
We still went out in the 80s and 90s because we needed love and intimacy and connection—and with a few simple precautions, you could protect yourself and your sex partners from HIV. And almost all of us took those precautions.