Some have gotten upset at my recent tweets over the past 10 years so I want to make it clear: I’m not an expert on this. I don’t know if people are born straight or if they choose it. All I know is I still love them and their challenge will be worked out in the next life.
I have so much respect for people who struggle with opposite sex attraction but stay celibate and go to brunch for their entire lives even though we don’t let them order most of the food.
And for those who doubt me, you should know I actually have a straight friend and although I’ve never talked with him about how hard his life is and even though I don’t think he should have rights, I’m obviously an ally. Because I know him.
What I’m not OK with is straight people shoving their sexuality in our faces by holding hands and putting straight relationships in movies. It’s sad that straight people let their sexual orientation define them.
It’s not like I’m afraid to see straight people though. The Big Bang Theory is like my favorite show.
I also used to watch friends. By the way, if you’re in a straight relationship, which one of you is the Ross and which one of you is the Rachel lol
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I've seen this quote getting shared in various forms in the context of "gay lifestyles." I want to preface my thoughts here: I don't know Tom, but know many people who do and he seems like a genuinely *wonderful* person. This is not meant to be a criticism of him in any way.
I have issues with the quote because of the societal realities that could cause someone to say or share it in the first place.
I don't want anyone in my life to work to "accept" let alone wonder if they can "condone" the parts of my life that bring me the most joy.
I'm not asking anyone to accept the fact that I married the person that I love. I'm *expecting* the people in my life to *celebrate* it. To be grateful for it. To support it. To encourage it. To love the love that I have. Just like I do for them when they get married.
Thinking of coming out? Congrats! Some unsolicited advice:
-this is good news you are sharing so act like it. We often do ourselves a disservice in these conversations by approaching them apologetically or from a place of shame. You are not burdening anyone with this good news.
You are blessing them with it.
-if someone reacts poorly to your good news, that says nothing about you. It only says something about them. It’s ok to say “I’m disappointed you feel this way and hope your love for me will help you see this differently but that’s your journey.”
-don’t beat around the bush. Just say. “I wanted to let you know I’m gay and I’m really happy I can finally tell you that.” Rip off the band aide. It will feel great.
I lived in Russia one summer and one day I went to see Lenin's body on Red Square (he has been preserved and you can see him through a glass case and it's truly wild). While I was standing in line this guy about my age offered to share his umbrella with me because it was raining.
I was 25 and closeted (and would be for another 5 years). The guy was from a small town in Siberia, visiting the big city on vacation. He was cute and he spoke about as much English as I spoke Russian (rough) so we communicated in a messy mix of both.
We were in that line for about 45 minutes before we saw Lenin so by the time we made it through the excursion, we had become familiar with one another. His name was Oleg and I really liked him so I was perfectly happy to spend the rest of the day with him wandering Moscow.
I tuned in to the sanctions hearing against the Kraken lawyers an hour ago, only intending to quickly see what everyone looks like, and I've been glued to it ever since. The incompetence of the Kraken lawyers and the judge's absolute disgust is great tv.
OMG. They filed someone saying the Kraken lawyers can't be sanctioned because of the First Amendment and "the Supreme Court precedent is too numerous to even cite" and that they don't want to offend everyone with a long string cite and the judge said she will not be offended
if they can even cite one mf case that says an attorney can file whatever they want under the First Amendment. This is absurd.
There were a lot of early moments that made me realize my husband was it, but a big one was when I asked him what he wanted to do for date night and he suggested we walk the dog, get some takeout, “and then the 3 of us snuggle on the couch to a good movie.”
My 25-year-old self would not have understood this. I thought I wanted an extrovert like me who would crave parties and crowds and adventure. It turns out when you find someone who feels like home, that’s all you really need to be complete.
I don’t want to do anything else or be anywhere else as long as he’s here. You can gag over this and I’ll probably agree. I’ve certainly done that over other people’s posts. But whatever. I never thought I could have this life and now that I do and I can’t stop bragging about it.