Thread by @delaneykingrox

Minorities need to support minorities. It is important to understand abusers, predators, stalkers and other forms of toxic people can appear in all groups.

Having a minority group expose a toxic person is painful and terrifying as we are already under siege from the outside.

I think a lot of us stay silent, thinking outing the person will cause the group more harm than good. This allows abusers to thrive in the small, vulnerable communities.

These people need to be removed from positions of power and their victims protected.

The abusers need to be removed from positions of influence and power, they need to be allowed to seek psychological help. They are STILL part of the minority, however they are toxic to the groups, however their victims, future victims and the community are priority one.

Minorities need a safe space. We need to feel safe together so we can gain the strength to fight for equality, safety and support.

The ideal situation is for the organisation to step in quietly and manage the member at the first warning signs, allowing the behaviour to be checked and the persons to get the help they need. This keeps us safe inside and out of the group.

Explosive outings and cancellations are a failure of voices being heard and actions being taken by the organisations. If they are on the ball, it should never get to the situation where one is required.

So, until our organisations shoulder the responsibility to protect it's members, we will see this happen again and again. And all that pain and abuse will continue, and the community will fester.

Wisdom and kindness, forgiveness and giving resources to those who need help are how a community stay protected.

Until then, it isn't so much a community than a hunting ground.

I hope the abusers genuinely get the help they need. Even those who hurt me personally.

Because I am not a victim. I am a survivor.