Thread by @Soty_08

If someone said to me years back that at 33 I would be unemployed, broke, zero business growth, no family or kids, no house or car to my name, I would laugh so hard. Why? Cause I had my life planned out. Out of sec school at 16, become a medical doctor at 23

Get married at 25 and by 30, done with childbirth, at 35 retired and heading my own company. But life happens yea. I am one who has always loved the independent life, I loved having my own savings/emergency funds. At 13, I had started buying my own clothes

Of everytime I got allowances (pocket money) from my dad or siblings, I saved a portion. I just hated being a liability. At the end of the school term I had saved enough to change my wardrobe. I also had a habit of giving out my old clothes at the end of the year.

I got that giving attitude from dad .. could seem cool but sometimes was a curse cause I never knew when to stop and people keep on taking. I have always worked. I like being an entrepreneur but I also like the typical 9-5 in the city of Lagos.

I've always had plans, goals and pretty much a clear part as to where I'm headed but adulthood can be crazy. As Age added, so did responsibilities and independence fuelled by decision making. I have made loads of mistakes ranging from financial, career, business, relationships

I am living with the consequences of my many mistakes..but then failure is not as important as the lesson learnt. One must learn to fail forward. And from all that I have been through and my current circumstances, I have deduced a couple of things.

1. You cannot give what you don't have
2. You are your greatest asset, invest in yourself
3.Never make excuses for others , speak only for yourself
4. Family is only a unit, you will know your true family when the chips are down
5. Never feel entitled towards another person's

Time, resources, finances, emotions etc
6. Never burn yourself to keep others warm cause once your light is out, they would move on.
7. When making a decision in any aspect of life be it relationships, career, business etc. Give it time..patience is a virtue.

8. Be honest with yourself at all times
9.quit worrying about things you can't change, it's alright to feel upset, don't beat yourself down, admit it, accept it and move on.
10. Remember the God factor, he is closer than you think and prayer does not need to be formal

The same way you express your grief, your disappointments, your anger , your excitement to your parents, you can do the same with God.
It's all a phase and everything will surely change with time

Remember Job, who would have known that everything that happened to him was a record of 9 months.. it seemed to me like a lifetime. So liken your rock bottom moments as your build up an your refining.surely there's some light at the end of that tunnel

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