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21 Sep, 9 tweets, 2 min read
This is the fucked up part about how pop culture teaches men to pursue women.

In the interest of full disclosure, go back 10-15 years and I’m just as quick to go “hey this was a cute thing that went wrong.”

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It takes, primarily, two pernicious forms:

1. Persistence wins.

2. Failure means needing to further prove how much you want her.

I can even detect it in the sad boy music I used to listen to.

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Lots of references to how the object of the singer’s affection will eventually realize how much he’s into her or helping her to “understand” his feelings. As if the issue was ever a lack of *obviousness*.

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But mostly it’s movies and television. Much as young men we hate romantic comedies, we do learn from them a seed of how we think romantic relationships work. Especially if we don’t think we’re the Han Solo type, we learn to be the Harry Burns type.

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Because… shit, if you’re 13 and see When Harry Met Sally you’re not seeing it as escapist fantasy, you’re seeing a guy who isn’t presented (and 100% isn’t) conventionally hot get Meg goddamned Ryan by being funny but, more importantly, persistent.

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Hard to tell the difference at 13 between “she’s secretly tsundere” and “no, she legitimately dislikes you because you’re being a dick” if your primary point of reference is Fushigi Yuugi and 10 Things I Hate About You

So we get these bad ideas.

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And we don’t consciously realize that while we feel like the main characters of a movie, we’re not. Our relationships aren’t scripted to lead to a denouement, and other people don’t have prescribed roles to play in our lives.

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So you wind up feeling like what this dude did was fine because *if* it were a movie and you know from the framing they’re already supposed to be together this makes sense.

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It’s only when you break out of that and remember that she has a perspective, she is not the passive recipient of affection, that you realize that it’s profoundly fucked up.

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Ryan, buddy, this isn’t a math problem you leave as an exercise for the listener.

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The former doesn't really worry me.

"The solution to bad speech is more speech" does not inherently include "therefore I must politely listen to this speech". Especially where, as on a college campus, there is disparity in the *literal platform* given to speakers.

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Freedom to criticize, even loudly, is part of freedom of speech.

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Open debate does not require they follow the rules of Lincoln Douglas debates. Shouting "that's some bullshit you fucking bigot" is the right of every student too.

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"We're not challenging the outcome of the presidential election, we're challenging the outcome of the election of the 117th Congress".

My dudes, it's the same election.

Cocaine is a hell of a drug.

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22 Feb
“Private” is doing a lot of heavy lifting in this argument.

So perhaps let’s try to bear in mind that while we consider letters (etc.) sent to other people to be personal, by default they are not private.

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If @mpark6288 wanted to release nearly every text message I’ve ever sent him, that is *his* right.

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There’s no elder-sibling-younger-sibling confidentiality, or neighbor-neighbor confidentiality.

Once you have shared information with someone who is not obliged to keep your confidences, their rights include “tell people that shit”.

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Oh goddamn the comments responding to this.

Let's rapid-fire some of these, but to begin with the most basic principle:

A sincerely held belief is protected the same as any other, there is no threshold of legitimacy for either the religion or the tenet.

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People imprisoned by any government *should* take advantage of the right to religious accommodation.

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