this is what oversocialization is btw. anything that trips the “thats not what youre supposed to be doing” wire sets off abject panic and rage (and fear) instantly. theres no sliding scale - your perception of social norms become a binary.
https://twitter.com/gaitanalyst/status/1442621605872553988
its basically impossible to function now in normal society (for most of you, i know many of u know this) without understanding the thought process here. this person did not hear the words and assess them. its “he said something not positive about the thing” wired to “hes INSANE”.
people you deal with like this are not responding to information. they are responding to sensation (the sensation and feeling of being uncomfortable). you cannot reason someone out of a sensation, because its an intrinsic feeling reaction. this is not necessarily intuitive.
a lot of you are like me, i think, and imagine in this kind of situation, you could say XYZ to this person, and you imagine what they might say back. doesnt work that way. when you see a picture of [disgusting thing], u have an intrinsic reaction. someone cant reason u out of it.
i say this mostly for the percentage of (new) people who are more and more finding themselves getting that kind of electric charged reaction from people, and arent sure why, and wonder what they did or what they can do about it. well, thats the mechanism youre dealing with.
if you are classically used to being “that guy” and getting that reaction, you may find it interesting there is a subset of people who did not seek that role out and are genuinely confused why they are being stamped as XYZ. i encounter them sometimes. it is interesting for sure.
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