I genuinely do not understand the moral outrage that people express at some of my lines of questioning. It's a bit novel each time, and to some extent I'm drawn to figuring out which kinds of question that trigger the outrage. But it seems so inconsistent!
Some qs I predict people would get upset about, but they don't at all. Others seem extremely innocuous or basic questions I assume everyone asks and then I get slapped upside the head with surprise anger. I've learned ppl are touchy about trans, pedos, bestiality, and autists.
and like, it is intuitive to me that those questions are more charged, but not intuitive to me that they're anger inducing. I've sort of assumed the charged areas are the most interesting places to ask qs and some part of me
doesn't get why everyone else doesn't feel the same
But I mean if we wanna do the childhood explanation thing maybe it's cause I was raised a fundamentalist Christian who believed evolution was a lie and gays were sinful, and questioning every single one of my deepest moral intuitions was essential for getting out of there.
But still, those questions didn't make me angry, I was still drawn to the charged questions about whether women should be allowed to vote or whatever then, and I'm drawn to the charged questions of this culture now. And - whyyy do they make ppl so upset?
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If you're in a community with a dude that acts real sus towards women, the only options are a) kick him out or b) keep it hush. This sets up a bad binary; what if the dude isn't *quite* sus enough to justify the extremeness of kicking? What if he provides huge value elsewhere? 1/
If a dude doesn't manage to be egregious enough, have a weak enough social network, or provides too much value, it's hard to trigger the KICK HIM OUT, which leaves us with b) KEEP IT HUSH.
I sorta want an option c) LET HIM STAY BUT ALSO BE PUBLIC ABOUT THE SUS BEHAVIOR
A version of c kinda exists with whisper networks, when you join a community and someone takes you aside at a party after they see you talking to Joe and goes 'haha yeah he's nice but be careful with him, Bethany reported he xyz'd her last year'
If cats have 4 legs, but a cat loses one, does it make it not a cat? What if it's also got a bit of genetic mutation? What if it's a lot of mutation? What if it was brought up by dogs? How much catness can you strip away and still have a cat?
This is how I think about gender 1/
There's no answer on what makes a cat not a cat or not, but we can be 'more catlike' or 'less.' To jump from one bucket (cat) to a different bucket (dog, or some other new thing), you need a *lot* of changes to the structure and traits and associations entirely. 2/
And to be clear, I am *absolutely pro* attempting to jump buckets in genderspace, I just also think it's extremely hard to do, because there's a huge amount of traits to strip away. A 3-legged, mutant cat raised by dogs still registers to us as 'cat', tho a weird one. 3/
Like everyone else, I've been real interested in doing a commune-style thing with some friends, kinda off-grid-ish, because "lil tribe in woods" is the ideal, right?
And I still want it, but sometimes I wonder if we've been too permanently socially crippled to pull it off. 1/n
I would fail as a survivalist. I don't have the knowledge to repair tools, to forage, how to prevent mold, treat wounds, etc. I was formed in a 'civilization' mold, where the most I need to know about my own shit is how to hit the flush lever. Set me into the woods, I'd die. 2/n
I wonder how much something like this is going on with cultural tribes. Are our attempts at tribe building doomed to fail because we're trying to come at it through a 'civilization' mold? How much do we not know that we don't know about how to sustain this type of community? 3/n
I'm just so sad. Sex work rescued me from a soul crushing life, it gave me an escape - and my story is a common one!
The moralistic pressure against porn as inherently exploitative is extraordinarily damaging, particularly to the underprivileged. 1/
I grew up in an oppressive religious atmosphere that viewed deviant sexuality as harmful. It would 'corrupt my soul', it would emotionally drain me, it would make me a vacant-eyed wreck.
But no, it fucking didn't. They were wrong, I was fine. And they still don't believe me.
I'm mad at every person who irresponsibly talked about how porn is damaging, how we need to protect kids, without also reminding us that we have a duty to protect the rights and freedoms of consenting adults to behave how they wish.
i grew up in an actually-really-trad culture; I thought women shouldn’t be allowed to vote, the expectation for my future was to definitely become a housewife, women weren’t allowed to hold religious authority over men, wives were explicitly expected to submit to husbands 1/
I was told women were emotional, worse at leading, couldn’t make hard decisions. I was expected to go to college to find a husband (better than our friends, whose 22yo daughter was still at home cause she wasn’t allowed to be outside the physical headship of a man) 2/
I had to be told I had a vagina, and only was told because I was going to start bleeding soon. I wasn’t told what sex was. I was forbidden from holding hands with a crush at age 16 (which I obeyed). I was expected to have my first kiss at the wedding altar. 3/