Imposter syndrome, also called perceived fraudulence, involves feelings of self-doubt and personal incompetence that persist despite your education, experience, and accomplishments.
I had this badly for years
What my shrink made me do👇
I had this badly for years
What my shrink made me do👇
many of you know I am a chartered accountant and that those exams are dam hard. I passed both exams on the first attempt. Instead of celebrating like other kids, I thoroughly believed the markers made a mistake TWICE
Yes, it sounds ridiculous now, but I believed it with my heart
Yes, it sounds ridiculous now, but I believed it with my heart
I took these rubbish thoughts into my entire career that followed. Whenever I went for an interview, I got the job. I was never rejected. AGAIN, I thought I just had a smooth mouth. LOL.
I got promotion after promotion and still I waited for them to catch me out😭
I got promotion after promotion and still I waited for them to catch me out😭
I finally went to see a therapist because of something else (PTSD) and this story came out.
She had me do this.
Write down in a book what you have achieved. ONLY FACTS....Zero feelings or what I think. Just facts.
She had me do this.
Write down in a book what you have achieved. ONLY FACTS....Zero feelings or what I think. Just facts.
I wrote down only the facts and took it back the next week.
Some items I wrote down
I never failed an exam an university
I never had to repeat a year
I passed both exams on first try
I am good at my job
I received many promotions
I do not miss deadlines
I work very hard
etc
Some items I wrote down
I never failed an exam an university
I never had to repeat a year
I passed both exams on first try
I am good at my job
I received many promotions
I do not miss deadlines
I work very hard
etc
I then had to explain every achievement and how I achieved it. This part was easy because honestly...I just work very hard.
Then she told me to do something harder. I had to ask a few people what they thought of me. Friends/ex-colleagues/current colleagues I trusted 🤯
Then she told me to do something harder. I had to ask a few people what they thought of me. Friends/ex-colleagues/current colleagues I trusted 🤯
I asked a few people three questions:
1. Am I a hard worker
2. Do I know what I am doing
3. Would they want to work with me in future
The responses had to go back to shrink. Obviously I said "what if they are lying" 🤣🤣🤣
She asked me if they are known for lying. Oops
1. Am I a hard worker
2. Do I know what I am doing
3. Would they want to work with me in future
The responses had to go back to shrink. Obviously I said "what if they are lying" 🤣🤣🤣
She asked me if they are known for lying. Oops
Last part of this exercise was...
Take the FACT LIST you made and put it somewhere you can see it every day. I stuck mine next to my mirror. I had to read it every single time I saw it. And not just the first line...every single line.
Eish, it stuck in my head.
Take the FACT LIST you made and put it somewhere you can see it every day. I stuck mine next to my mirror. I had to read it every single time I saw it. And not just the first line...every single line.
Eish, it stuck in my head.
I even started becoming proud of myself...like damn "I DID THAT" I am still not sure when or how it happened, but I started believing in myself and my achievement. To this day, I don't think there is anything I cannot do, if I decide it's what I want.
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