Last night I was at my peoples house with a few friends and my homegirl with her daugther, 5, who I haven't seen her since she was 3...any way, she told her daughter to give me a hug, and the girl was very shy, I said to the mom don't ever force your child to hug any one.
The mother said but she should know you, I said, yes that's correct, she should & that's on me not coming around as often but the reality is, she doesn't know me. I continued with, you don't want to force your daugther to hug people especially men. She looked at me and said,
You always find a way to open my mind up to different shit.
Forcing your kids to hug people, sit on their laps, kiss them... stop all of that. You're doing it innocently but their intentions are always completely opposite. It always start off with those small antics.
Forcing your kids to hug people, sit on their laps, kiss them... stop all of that. You're doing it innocently but their intentions are always completely opposite. It always start off with those small antics.
By the end of the night, we were best of friends, laughing & telling corny jokes! She decided when she was ready to engage. Let a child decide when they want to engage with adults. Children should be able to reject adults and not feel bad while being forced to engage with adults.
The little girl asked whats my name, I said Mr. Dane, while everyone said their first name. The mother said okay, whats the reason you said "Mr Dane", I know there's a reason. I said, I psychologically established boundaries, I'm an adult and she's a child. We're not friends.
Either your kids will call me Uncle Dane or Mr Dane, but they will not address me as Dane. We're not the same age, we're not friends, we don't hang out at the same places. Putting a title in front of your name indirectly changes how kids see and react to you.
The mother said ironically Dane is the only gay man here and he's the on educating me on how to protect my daughter, he's the only one without kids here .... y'all don't have nothing to add .. lmaooo ..2 of my friends said they were listening because they have daughters π€£
I said, not just your daugthers but sons too. I said it wasn't a woman that molested me, it wasnt a stranger that molested me, it was my older cousin who molested me. Trust no one with your kids because adults being lurking and watching your child and your every movement.
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