Being a middle manager feels a lot like making $400K in the "how much money makes you rich" conversation. A bunch of people who have never experienced it telling you how it works and telling you that you have no problems to complain about. It's wild.
This is the last time I talked about it. Y'all didn't wanna hear it then either.
Anytime your politics are telling you that you don't have to care about how another human feels, you should be thinking hard about whether you're doing the right thing. That's all I'm saying.
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I'm going to answer this question. It's going to require context. As in not all situations and companies fit this mold. It's also going to require throwing away some deeply held assumptions.
The core context is knowledge work. That's the only context I'm speaking in because that's what I do. When people talk about "tech work" that is a subset of knowledge work. So you can assume most of what I'm talking about applies to tech jobs.
Most of the time, we have this simple notion of how work gets done. If each individual does their one part, then eventually the whole thing will be done. You can do your part without being too worried about whether other people are doing their part.
My wife and I have worked hard to be comfortable with being more transparent when it comes to sharing our journey. We will be as real as we can be.
It will not be recorded though. Why? Cause y'all don't know how to act.
I want the conversation to have some focus though. Things can tend to meander all over the place and be less helpful. So let's crowdsource some questions. What is it that people want to hear about?
I do understand that it feels bad to hear about other people making so much more money than you do. When we talk about rampant inequality, it has so many impacts on our society. It's not just about doing math. The resentment is real and understandable.
And if you try to put people up on game, they're not listening. Instead they wanna talk about how your math doesn't add up in their head so you must be lying to them. People on the outside can't even help themselves because they're incapable of trust.
Let me say something that should be obvious. The fact that I'm "rich" doesn't mean I'm gonna be okay with you treating me like shit just because you're not rich. It's more likely that I'll say "no thanks", and you'll remain both angry and uninformed.
I mean... I guess I get it. But it's wild to me that people are legit fighting over whether $400K should be labeled "rich" or not. Like why is that the hill we wanna die on? In either direction?
If everybody who made $400K woke up tomorrow and said "okay, I admit it. I'm rich." What would happen? What are the next steps after we get aligned on this important issue?
Besides people who are making $399K breathing a sigh of relief that is.
If you're going to ask people to have in-depth discussions with you on twitter, it helps to make sure you know how to have in-depth discussions on twitter.
Saying "I disagree" is not a discussion. Wondering out loud in my mentions is not a discussion. Telling me what you think when I didn't ask you is not a discussion. Yes, I could give you a lot of grace and assume some things about what you wanna talk about. But I could also not.
I give the same advice all the time, but people don't seem to understand it. Ask a question. Ask an actual question that is well-formed and gets at what you want me to talk to you about. If you can't do that easily, consider that you may not be ready to "discuss" anything.
Wow. This is a great example of a thread that starts off good and then veers into selling you on some bullshit. It’s pretty seamless. It’s literally the transition from this first sentence to the second one.