Thread by @DeanAbbott

Why contemporary relations between the sexes are so messed up.

A short thread.

The problem starts with men because men lead, the masculine pursues and initiates, and problems always start at the level of leadership.

Both feminists and some of the "redpill" guys will disagree with this, but it's true.

Most men aren't taught that a relationship with a woman means accepting responsibility. No one tells us that a woman represents not only pleasure, but obligation.

The fact that having a relationship with a woman means responsibility and obligation never enters many men's minds.

When these men enter into a relationship with a woman, they are overwhelmed by her needs, her feminine communication style, and her emotions.

Moreover, he unconsciously resents her for having needs at all since he has been conditioned to see her solely as a source of pleasure.

When her anger and disappointment over his irresponsibility gets intense enough, he splits in search of another woman.

He mistakenly believes the problem wasn't his attitude nor that it is a societal problem. He blames the particular woman he was with instead.

He then finds another woman and repeats the same unhealthy process ad infinitum.

In a situation where men will not take responsibility for their character, for providing good leadership and looking out for women, women develop a prey mentality: the mentality of a creature exposed to danger and afraid.

Women adopt many strategies for dealing with this but they all come down to some attempt to keep themselves safe in a world where all protections have been removed.

They may seek to withdraw from men, become bitter, become predatory themselves. They seek to capitalize on their beauty or whatever other assets they have in order to secure resources and make themselves feel safe.

So, we end up with a society filled with immature, resentful men and frightened, desperate women seeking power, status and attention as a means of achieving a sense of safety.

Establishing lasting relationships and families in this environment is made even more difficult.

Because the problem starts with men, so must the solution.

The only way out of this mess is to teach men to value their honor, to see that their fulfillment lies in shouldering responsibility not in avoiding it and that they and their masculine nature are good and valuable.

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