Thread by @ItsKieranDrew

Do you wish you were more confident?

10 years ago, I could barely talk to a stranger. Now, the people I grew up with don't recognise me.

Here're 7 simple but effective tactics you can use to build great self-esteem 🧵 👇

When you have low confidence, you can be your worst enemy.

But if you stop getting in your own way,

I promise you'll do amazing things.

Here’s what I found helped me.

Own Your Flaws

Trust me,

It feels easier to hide your flaws.

But avoidance isn’t a solution – it’s a plaster.

While everyone buries theirs, dig yours up.

Make jokes about them.

Show vulnerability.

And over time, you'll rule them - instead of being ruled by them.

Small Challenges

‘Avoid the comfort zone’ – Everyone on Twitter

(guilty)

Here’s the thing:

1 platitude will not save you.

Action will.

But don't be drastic.

Courage is built sequentially.

Start a skill. Speak to a stranger. Eat alone.

Build stepping stones to success.

Affirmations

I don’t believe in wishy-washy self-help.

Ferraris don't appear if you ask your mirror.

But what you do have is a problem.

Your monkey mind.

And you need to persuade it to shut the fuck up.

Daily affirmations of who you want to be reinforces becoming it.

Lift Weights

You don’t need to get jacked to be happy

But it helps.

3 reasons
1. You look & feel great
2. You see the power of consistency
3. People respect you more

These add up.

You signal confidence. The world responds. Your identity reinforces.

And on the cycle goes.

Smile

I know.

Wishy-washy...

But as an (ex) dentist, you need to trust me.

I want you to try this:

The next person you meet, smile like they’re your long-lost best friend.

Mean it.

Watch what happens.

People think you’re awesome.

And you’ll begin to believe it too.

Study Human Nature

There’re 2 truths about us:

1. We’re incredibly insecure
2. No one has it figured out

And when you learn about the mind, you realise we’re all just monkeys in suits.

Nothing to be scared of.

And this lets you accept your psychology.

Instead of fight it.

Selflessness

At a time where people are so ‘me-orientated’

Commit to helping. To overdelivering. To being reliable.

It’s a rare characteristic,

One you can take pride in.

You build self-worth by helping people with their lives

Instead of always trying to improve your own.

Thanks for reading my friends - remember, confidence is built a day at a time.

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TL;DR

You build confidence through action. Here's why these will help you immensely:

• Own your flaws
• Stepping stone challenges
• Affirm to confirm
• Get jacked
• Grin like a madman
• Study the mind
• Make it about everyone else