Thread by @MsEntropy

I don’t know who needs to hear this right now, but I guarantee someone does.

If you are from an abusive / toxic home and as a child had to ‘parent’ a parent:

Don’t let anyone guilt trip you for making the decision to sever contact with family. Ever.

If you grew up with a suicidal parent, that’s doubly true.

No one, not even a sibling, should fault you for prioritizing your own well-being, especially when parents won’t.

You can’t “save” them — and it’s not your burden to try.

If a sibling cuts off your parents, refrain from judgment, especially if you weren’t the caretaker.

Parent-child relationships aren’t all the same.

And sticking around often enables, not to mention lets them avoid seeking the help they need.

Don’t ask me how I know.

https://twitter.com/MsEntropy/status/1453081454825537539

Abusive / suicidal parents send a clear message to a child: “you’re not worth caring for.”

But the thing is — you are.

And no one can save you but you.

It’s hard to walk away, but keep in mind:

Once you’ve removed yourself for some time, you’ll likely learn their behavior has remained.

Let that remind you: you’re obviously not “the reason” now — so you clearly weren’t the reason then.

This is so beautifully said.

Walking away doesn’t mean you hate your parents. The most loving thing you can do is:

Break the cycle.

https://twitter.com/pastorrichenda/status/1453086151430983684

Someday, I’ll write about this in-depth.

But not today.

To wrap up, some last thoughts…

Don’t beat yourself up for feeling guilty; it’s the normal byproduct of a bad childhood.

Focus instead on this (on God, it helps):

Be who you needed back then, for someone else.

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