Violence against women is everyday; ordinary men commit it. All men benefit from some men’s violence against women. They are beneficiaries of that violence because that violence upholds patriarchy. It is foundational to patriarchy. My new essay is about Intimate Partner Violence
I do not want to be protected from the violence of cis men. I want patriarchy to stop protecting violent cis men. I want to be free of the violence of cis men.
In 1996 I had an "illegal" abortion in Egypt and in 2000 I had a "legal" abortion in the US. The State and its courts can fuck off with their opinions about what I can and can’t do with my uterus. That control belongs to me. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…#TexasAbortionBan#SCOTUS
I was not raped. I was not sick. The pregnancies did not threaten my life. I did not already have children. I just did not want to be pregnant. I did not want to have a child.
And so I had my abortions.
I am glad I did. They gave me the freedom to live the life I have chosen.
Criminalizing abortion does not eradicate it nor does it make it rare. It makes it dangerous and often deadly for the poorest and most vulnerable people who can get pregnant. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…#TexasAbortionBan#SCOTUS
Abortion ban in Texas is neither aberration/out of the blue. It's what white supremacist Christian conservatives have been working for, while telling women in the US "be grateful you don't live over there (Muslim country)." #WholeWomansVJackson#SB8feministgiant.com/p/if-amy-coney…
Liberal, affluent, white cisgender women thought as long as Roe v. Wade survived, they could ignore whatever the Christians were saying all along - since the 1970s. In the U.S., white and Chrisitian is considered the default, a norm, not scary, not brown or Muslim or pathologized
They remained willfully ignorant to the fact that Roe v. Wade died for many Black and women of colour and poor women in the South, where one after another clinics that provide abortions were being shuttered.
Femicide is used in France to refer to the epidemic of women killed by men in intimate settings. The U.S. barely uses the word. Femicide kills 10 times more women in the U.S. than in France. Adjusting for population size, the problem is twice as bad in the US than it is in France
In the U.S. more women are killed by intimate partners--their boyfriends, husbands and exes--than any other type of perpetrator. So much for “stranger danger.” Three women are killed every day in the US by a current or an ex partner. feministgiant.com/p/essay-the-te…
Femicide is worse in the US than in Turkey, where cis men’s murder of women is called “honour killings.”
“Honour killings” like “intimate partner violence” fails to focus the horror on where it should be. So let’s call both forms of violence what it is: terrorism.
My new essay is full of awful %. Femicide--the killing of a woman or a girl by a man because of her gender, also used to refer to the epidemic of women killed by men in intimate settings--is a word rarely used in the US. Femicide kills 10 times more women in the US than in France
Almost three women are killed every day by a current or an ex partner in the US.
#DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth just ended in the US. What does it change if the horrors of intimate partner violence are not named for the epidemic that they are.
The Supreme Court of the United States reviews Texas’s most-restrictive-in-the-nation abortion law on Monday. The hearing "opens the most dramatic month for reproductive rights at the Supreme Court in three decades." washingtonpost.com/politics/court…#SCOTUS
In 1996 I had an "illegal" abortion in Egypt and in 2000 I had a "legal' abortion in the US.
I had long dared myself to write this. And I finally did.
When I traveled to London for my first in-person event since the pandemic, I had a 2-day test, a test 3 days before I came home, a test at landing airport, and a test today.
My nose is pissed off but we are glad to report all came back negative.
Learning to emerge, appreciating privilege (fully vaccinated, able to work from home, easy access to tests) and trying to be mindful of risk and those around me, especially those most vulnerable.
I miss the world.
I miss people.
Truly.
But fuck the genocidal recklessness of fascist fucks like Boris Johnson et al who don’t give a flying fuck about any of the above.