I don't know about "extreme," but:
The quiet, unspoken, pressure to embody gender norms, to try to fit in and seem like a typical, "normal" guy/man/bro/dude, even when, who knows, maybe all the other guys are also pretending or self-policing in the same way, to fit in with you.
The quiet, unspoken, pressure to embody gender norms, to try to fit in and seem like a typical, "normal" guy/man/bro/dude, even when, who knows, maybe all the other guys are also pretending or self-policing in the same way, to fit in with you.
https://twitter.com/pamela_mtanga/status/1458299213876539392
Even when you know the guys and they'd probably be totally cool with you being a diff sort of guy to them, I'm always sort of curious, how many of them aren't actually that sort of guy either? We all just sort of play along to try to fit in, but maybe *all* of us are pretending?
If only we could all drop the act all at once. I'm sure there's a movie/TV reference I could reference here, but I'm blanking. But surely, there's one where everyone is standing around, brewskis in hand, talking about football, and then everyone sort of eyes one another and then
finally, somehow, it drops, and everyone realizes they were all pretending, bc they thought that's what everyone else was all about. So, none of us were actually here for the BBQ & football? You guys want to pop over to the wine & cheese at the art opening instead?
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