Thread by @kemimarie

As some of you may know, a situation regarding @TarotByBronx, @ijaadee & I transpired. There was a heated argument that happened on spaces between Jade & myself.

The three of us had a convo & I believe you all deserve to know. I pray this closes everything out. (long thread)

While Jade has other situations going on, that is for them to acknowledge and work through. In regards to me, I spoke up specifically in regards to my personal experiences being isolated from the community potentially at the cause of their words.

I wanted to know if this was true. There were various falsehoods being spread about me to others in the community with people naming these two as the source. I wanted to speak to them directly about these claims.

I also spoke to Bronx about an experience I had with them where I felt sexually manipulated. I disclosed this information to one of them. This very personal information was spread to third parties. This information reached me a few months ago but the further spread of

it was recently confirmed to me by another colleague. I sat down with them in pursuit of truth. Bronx and Jade maintain that they do not know how the private information was spread. I respect that.

They stated that they did not know about this sexual manipulation before these last three days. I respect that. Speaking to Bronx about the situation between what I experienced, Bronx apologized. They did not recall everything that occurred as it was a while ago.

They did not know the impact they had in that specific situation. Bronx & I came to a great understanding. There is a lot of nuance to be had regarding sexual coercion and sexual situations. There was a lack of communication and clarity immediately during and after the situation

That clarity was achieved during our conversation. To better understand, please read @writing_to_live thread explaining the dynamics and nuance that exists within sexual manipulation and abuse.

https://twitter.com/writing_to_live/status/1466919960446484484?s=21

Ive experienced assault routinely throughout my life and continue to work through these traumas. In no way am I saying that it is okay what happened. However, I am also saying that in my specific situation, I do not view Bronx as predatory.

If you know my teachings, you know that I believe in the complex duality and the many facets of human existence. Bronx was unaware they did these things/had that affect. They did take accountability regarding the situation and I am very thankful for that.

Bronx has many facets. Many people have different experiences and relationships with them.

As i stated in one of my tweets, “you are the bad guy in someone’s story. you are also the good guy in someone else’s. what does that say about you?

it says you are human. that you are still growing, that you are more than what you do, and that there’s many sides of you. i pray you accept them all.”

Before this conversation, my ancestors told me: “this is a mirror. how would you treat yourself in this situation?”

With open ears, understanding, truth, boundaries, honest direct communication, accountability. I would hope people would see my multifaceted existence. I would hope people would communicate with me.

I am not saying that it is okay. I am saying there is a lot of shading, details and nuance to be had. There’s communication to be had and in our case, there was none on both parts.

Aside from this situation,

Over the past 11 months, & most recently in these past few days, people continued coming to me regarding things they said about me, personal situations & experiences being spread to others in our field. If you saw my instagram story post, you understand the extent to what I said

I watched my community members distance themselves, and shut me out from many experiences and people. Over the past few days other ppl have admitted to distancing themselves and engaging in the isolatory behavior due to the rumors aimed to turn people against me.

While saddening, I respect that. I couldn’t speak out due to various power dynamics at hand. I spent months isolated, battling different fears, going through a lot mentally. That is my experience as I became silently blacklisted from my community.

All of this sparked an array of fears, worries, anxieties, trust issues, and anxious experiences which led me to seek help. Thankfully, i was able to work through it all, therapy it thru, and learn so much. I am so strong, so communicative, so assertive. I found my people.

I am very healthy, & aware. I know my power. I know my place. While some things, such as conversations regarding me, were confirmed, Jade and Bronx maintain that they didn’t play a large a role in my experience or the things spread.

They did apologize that I felt these things and experienced this for the past year. I respect that. Essentially, we both maintained our stances and perspectives.

This conversation provided truths about some things. This entire situation brought some truths regarding peoples roles in my isolation. It did bring an honest conversation between Bronx and I about our personal situation and I truly appreciate that.

I truly pray for rise, wellness and growth. We both don’t like our personal business out there, or being heavily perceived to begin with, so this is especially difficult for both of us. Please respect that.

Please do not harass them. Please do not attack them. Please do not harm them in any way or attempt to “cancel” them. Theres a route to accountability which requires honesty and I think we got a bit closer to that today.