Deadly silence: what happens when we don't believe women
Not listening to women’s experience of abusive men – and of other areas from health to the economy – harms all of society. theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2… 1/6
Women’s suffering is widely accepted and ignored in our culture. Whether the suffering of men’s violence, or poor health. And a cultural unwillingness to believe women. Including on their own competence, or on dangerous men. 2/6
The delegitimisation of women’s voice and authority is central to patriarchy. “Because the existing power structure is built on female subjugation, female credibility is inherently dangerous to it.” 3/6
“Patriarchy is called that for a reason: men really do benefit from it. When we take seriously women’s experiences of sexual violence and humiliation, men will be forced to lose a kind of freedom they often don’t even know they enjoy: the freedom to use women’s bodies to..." 4/6
"the freedom to use women’s bodies to shore up their egos, convince themselves they are powerful and in control, or whatever other uses they see fit. When we genuinely believe in women’s leadership capacity, men must face twice the competition they previously had" 5/6
“Seeing women as fully human may cost men certain kinds of oppressive power, but it pays dividends to the human race in nearly every other way.” theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2… 6/6
• • •
Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to
force a refresh
Unacknowledged rape: the sexual assault survivors who hide their trauma – even from themselves theguardian.com/society/2021/a… 1/6
Large numbers of women have had experiences that meet legal definitions of rape and sexual assault but don’t label it as such. It can take years for survivors to realise or accept that their experience amounts to sexual assault or rape, if ever. 2/6
A 2016 analysis of 28 studies of nearly 6,000 women and girls aged 14+ who had experienced sexual violence found that 60% of survivors didn’t label their experience as “rape”. Instead, they used descriptors such as “bad sex” or “miscommunication”. journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/15… 3/6
Facts about sexual assault and rape of adults (Australian Institute of Criminology research synthesis)
Reporting: Most victims of rape and sexual assault delay disclosing or reporting or never disclose their experiences. 83% of victims did not report. aic.gov.au/publications/t… 1/14
Incidents of rape and sexual assault are significantly under-reported, under-prosecuted, and under-convicted. Conviction rates for sexual assault are extremely low. Because rapes usually in private without witnesses or medical evidence, victim-blaming jurors, poor rape laws. 2/14
False allegations are rare. And when they do occur, most are not malicious. Most represent fear or a need for assistance, rather than malice. Also see Lisak et al.’s excellent review of the research, free here: xyonline.net/sites/xyonline…. 3/14
Yes, let’s promote consent. But not above all because it’s sexy, but because it’s about “fundamentally recognising another person’s right to his or her own body, about respecting the person’s dignity and autonomy, and about being able to take a “no”. 2/4
“Rapists don’t rape because consent is not sexy enough; they rape because they feel entitled and protected.”
“Teaching the importance of consent should be a natural outcome of teaching other fundamental moral principles.” 3/4
Predatory conferences: People new to academia may not know that there is an energetic scam industry dedicated to setting up fake or dodgy conferences, in order to extract exorbitant registration fees from unspecting participants. link.springer.com/article/10.100… 1/5
My latest experience of a scammy conference, or at least a dodgy one, was being invited to speak at the 8th International Congress of Gynaecology and Obstetrics bitcongress.com/ICGO2022-europ…. I have *no* expertise whatsoever in these fields, so the invitation itself was a giveaway. 2/5
But being a playful and curious soul, I thought I’d submit an abstract… I wrote one on literally on “predatory conference organisms”. Plausible enough to pass muster for a predatory / scam conference, but definitely not credible to anyone with real academic knowledge. 3/5
Domestic and family violence’s impact: Of people who had hospital stays because of DFV, 68% were female and 32% male. Females were more likely to have multiple hospital stays. Most females were hospitalised by partners, but most males hospitalised by *other family members*. 1/4
Of females in hospital because of DV, for 75% this was due to an intimate partner. But for males, only 29% was due to an intimate partner, and 71% due to another family member or parent. See the AIHW report, p. 39. aihw.gov.au/reports/domest…@aihw 2/4
Among people put into hospital by their partner’s domestic violence, 85% are women. Of all people hospitalised due to domestic violence by an intimate partner (14,958 females and 2,744 males), women were 85% of victims (about 5 in 6) and men were 15% of victims (about 1 in 6) 3/4
Putting perpetrators in the picture: This new Briefing Paper (4p) on domestic and sexual violence from the QUT Centre for Justice, by Michael Flood and Lula Dembele, calls for reframing how this violence is understood, measured, & addressed. research.qut.edu.au/centre-for-jus…@DLulabele 1/9
Too often, domestic and sexual violence are framed as passive and perpetrator-free: “A man killed a woman” becomes “A woman was killed by a man” becomes “A woman was killed”. “John raped Mary” becomes “Mary was raped by John” becomes “Mary was raped”. 2/9
Even some prevention language, e.g. “Preventing violence before it occurs” is passive, and again perpetrators and perpetration are invisible. Yet violence involves agency: a person uses violence against another person. 3/9