Thread by @TheBrometheus

Ladies looking for quality men:

High quality guys are being set up by their aunts and grandmas and everyone at work and church. People want those guys connected to their family, specifically their sweet female family members who stay at home and want to build a family.

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Dating websites are basically what's left over from healthy pairing. Dudes on dating websites are often there because they don't have the social skills and relationship awareness required to get recommended dates within their social network. That's why those DMs are all dickpicks

Which is why stats show that 90% of women are competing for the top 10% of men on dating websites, and those men cycle the women for endless sex while pretending to commit.

Many of the remaining 90% of men are desperate for sexual approval from women. They get clingy super fast.

Dating websites are a crapshoot. There's a chance you can find a good match, yes. But odds are slim. The real catches for both men and women are at home with their families, church, or volunteering

If you're looking for healthy men, you're using the wrong bait in the wrong pond.

The real secret is to build a healthier network. Everyone on earth knows ten men looking for a loving wife. If that's you, you shouldn't be searching alone. You need to connect to a network of people who care about you. Then have them search for you. Bring you their best options.

If your network knows him ahead of time, he's pressured to treat you with respect. You shouldn't get ten pictures of his penis before he texts "Hello." He's pressured to be honest. And to only commit if he's serious. This pressure goes up the healthier your network is.

A lot of this is built on being in a place where healthy men would want to find a wife. That's not in the club 6 nights a week. It's probably with family, with charities and volunteering, with a steady job, with cooking classes, with running your home business. Wholesome.

Connecting to people in those places is a great way to make sure your network there shares your values. Then put out feelers. A woman who tells her healthy network, "I want a husband to love for the next 60 years" is probably going to get swamped with offers.

At that point, you interview your network about them beforehand. Share your wants and dislikes. Vet them ahead of time. Have your network scout for your. They should do all the work so that only the best arrive on your desk.

You also need to boost your own relationship value.

This isn't club dating. If you're dating your mom's best friend's son, you can't use sex to hook him. You don't show up with a "You're scum, I'm the queen" attitude. You figure out what you can offer in relationships and you improve that. That way people want to pair you up.

Then when you do go on a date, you start slow. You meet at the recommending person's house in a group. That way you have someone you trust on your side the whole time. You're never alone with the other person. No risks, no fear. You can relax and feel at home while assessing.

The pressure is on you, too, to be honest and respectful. But the pressure on the first few dates will be less because your network is right there in the room to help ease the conversation in. And you can see him interact with people he knows AND people he doesn't, like yourself.

If you're looking for a quality man in a safe environment, this is the system. This keeps you safe from start to finish and has your network do most of the work. Best of all, he's a stranger to you but NOT to your system. That filters a lot of variables before you even connect.

"I've tried this and I get horrible dates."

Probably relates to the quality of your network. If you ask your club friends to hook you up, guess who they know? If they knew a high quality man they'd snatch him up for themselves.

Find networks with a surplus of good men.

"This doesn't sound spontaneous or fun."

Dating strangers may be exciting. The date rape statistics are much less fun. And regretful sexual encounters. And wasted years on losers your network could have filtered out. And being disrespected by random jerks you try out.

No method is perfect. But this gets you the lowest risk of danger, with the highest pressure on the man to act respectful, while vetting your potential partner ahead of time, sometimes with 10 or 20 years of data from people who know him.

Do you have a better system?

Ladies, if you're looking for a good marriage match, this is the best system out there. So build your healthy networks, improve your own relationship offering, and put out the word that you want a loving husband. See what your network brings. And if nothing, expand your network.

This is the best way to find a good husband.

BTW the name of this system is called courtship. It's what humans all over the Earth have used since the dawn of recorded history. We abandoned this is the last several decades as our networks broke down. The problem wasn't that this didn't work, it's that our networks ended.

So build your networks and make use of this proven system humanity developed over thousands of years. It's your best bet. 🥂